Online Dating First Message
Probably the most difficult part of online dating is the first message that you send to a new woman you’ve found. By nature this is obviously going to be an entirely subjective topic, but I’ve figured out one particular online dating first message that truly shines and has worked amazingly for me.
Lots of guys say teasing her is the way to go, but I’ve developed my own theory on the subject. Poking fun at a girl online may work, but she will respond much better when you joke about the OTHER girls on the dating site, not her.
They seem to go absolutely nuts over this, and almost always respond to my first message when I do it this way.
I was getting laid online long before I ever knew that this website even existed, so all of my material in this realm is 100% original – and thoroughly tested.
The most important thing that you can do, no… the most important thing that you MUST do is make the woman feel individualized.
Her online day involves clearing her inbox of hundreds of e-mails from guys that are all similar; all begging, and all lame.
Those messages are going straight to the trash.
You MUST stand out or you will fail, plain and simple. How do you put yourself on another level?
Well, she knows that most men simply send many similar copy-and-paste messages out to loads of girls online hoping to get a single response from just one of the women.
She’s evolved to recognize and ignore these types of initial messages.
So what’s the trick to getting your first message read and not thrown into the trash bin with the rest?
Here it is:
Make her feel like she is better than the other girls online on a deep, intellectual and spiritual level.
This must be NOT done from a needy or timid stance, but instead gives the vibe that you are just sick of the other women online and that she seems to be a breath of fresh air.
Doing it in this fashion will ensure that you do not lose any value in the process, and she will definitely read your message and respond to it.
Girls compete against one another. We all know this and use it to our advantage out in real life all of the time. Yet for some reason, I’ve never heard of anyone using it in online dating.
Perhaps it is because there seems to be a “disconnection” between the various girls on online dating websites. They aren’t grouped up and all have separate profiles, they are out there all alone (seemingly).
However, if you read my other article about making your own profile, remember how I told you to view other guy’s profiles to ensure you don’t make the mistakes they make?
Well, women are doing that too.
They know what the other girl’s online profiles are like, they’ve seem them.
With all of these social dynamics and female psychology in mind, over many iterations I have developed an online dating first message that makes every girl genuinely believe that I have written her a touching, individualized compliment.
This message has an OUTSTANDING response rate.
I won’t post the exact version of this first message that I use personally because if tons of guys start copy-pasting it from here that would defeat the purpose of making it seem individualized.
Instead, I’ll post the main template that I use with the wording switched-up.
As long as you follow the recipe outlined below, you can change the wording up yourself and it will still work just as well. That’s what I do to keep things fresh, and it always makes women respond since the main concept is so strong.
It begins with this:
“I read your profile and noticed something that I can’t say about many girls on this website, you actually have a personality. Strike that and I’ll take it one step further, you actually have a pulse.”
That line catches her eye with both wit and originality. I go on to explain why she is different, and I even congratulate her for it. Though everything I’m writing is canned, she is oblivious and consequently touched. Then comes the humor:
“I’ve read vanilla profile after white bread profile on this website and came to believe I was dealing mostly with robots. And nobody wants to date a robot, they are made of metal and have claws.”
Every woman that you send this message to will love this.
In her response she’ll assure you she isn’t made of metal or has claws in some joke retort.
After that, seal the deal by asking her to check out your joke-laden profile.
If she’s interested, tell her to shoot you an e-mail back and that you look forward to hearing back from her (say this, it shows confidence because you’re basically assuming she will respond again).
As of right now, this online dating first message has proved to be the most effective out of anything that you’ll find anywhere else.
Use it liberally and watch how many women respond to you.
After you have her hooked, make sure to read “The New Breed” before you meet her in person!
What you’ll learn in that huge seduction package will take you the rest of the way – straight to her bed or straight to her heart.
You choose how you want it to go down!
Paragon Project Member