How to talk to a girl on the phone

Talk to a girl on the phone

Talk to a girl on the phone


There are a lot of elements that come into play when you are courting a woman. Some of them are vital, while others can be avoided in certain situations. However, knowing how to talk to a girl on the phone is simply required in all cases.

You’ll always end up on the phone with her eventually – it’s unavoidable – so you need to know how to handle it properly when that time comes.

That’s what I’m going to teach you.

This article is about how to use the phone as a tool in your game, so everything I’m going to discuss here is under the assumption that you’ve already gotten her number.

If you’re looking for information on how to get a girl’s number, you won’t find it here.

For that, go read these first: 5 steps to get a girl’s phone number and Approach a girl and get her number.

Okay, so assuming that you have a girl’s number, what’s the next step?

You need to figure out when you should call her for the first time.

When should you call?

How long should you wait before calling a girl?

Many will tell you to get her number, wait two days and then call.

This is completely wrong.

There really is no solid rule to follow for when you should call a girl for the first time.

The “right time” to call will vary greatly depending on the girl you are dealing with.

You need to learn how to evaluate how much she is feeling you, then use that as your guideline for choosing when to call her for the first time.

If she is really digging you, waiting two days before you call her could really turn her off because she was hoping that you would call right away while all of the “magic” from your first meeting was still fresh.

When everything begins with a bang and you are 100% certain that a woman is really into you, the best choice is to call her the very next day or even later on that same day (if you meet her during the daytime, call her to set up a date for that night).

Don’t let that window of opportunity pass by.

On the other hand, if you get the impression that the girl was impressed with you when you met her but didn’t really go crazy over you yet, then waiting maybe one day would be a better option.

Another scenario is when a girl was slightly reluctant to give you her number; you had to work for it. That girl is going to be more of a project than a sure thing, so the normal “wait two days before you call her” rule applies here.

You always want to match the time you wait to the level of attraction that each girl has for you.

The best way to decide when to call a girl after getting her number is to ask yourself this question:

“If the tables were turned, when would she call me?”

This always works because the amount of time the girl would wait before calling you is identical to the amount of time that they expect to pass before you call them.

If she was “head over heels” for you immediately, then she’s probably watching her phone anxiously awaiting your call, so obviously you should hit her up right away.

If she liked you a lot but wasn’t crazy for you, then wait a little while longer.

If she wasn’t really feeling you that much but you still managed to get her number, then wait even longer.

You get the idea, right?

Never have a set amount of time that you always wait before you call a girl – treat each one individually – and you’ll get much better results.

When you call and talk to a girl on the phone, you’ll know right away if you waited the right amount of time.

Does she sound slightly disappointed? Then you waited to long.

Does she seem distracted or busy? You didn’t wait long enough.

Does she sound annoyed or blow you off? You called way too early.

Keep an eye out for this stuff and start to tailor how you call girls according to the reaction you are getting. Eventually you’ll be able to know exactly how long to wait before calling a girl depending on how the first meeting went down.

Remember; there is no set amount of time to wait before you call a girl.

That’s b******t. It’s lazy and doesn’t work.

How long should you talk?

Many guys have the false belief that they should talk to a girl on the phone for extended periods of time.

After all, if she’s willing to stay on the phone with you for hours, then you have the opportunity to learn a lot about her and build up a lot of rapport, right?

Completely wrong.

The phone is a tool best used to set up dates with her, then all of your “getting to know her” s**t should be done in person.

There’s a certain “disconnect” between individuals when the communication is done over the phone, and many social elements are lost in the process.

For example, you can’t read her body language or see her facial expressions (emojis don’t count), which slows the entire process.

In person you can build more rapport and create more of a bond with a girl in 10 minutes than you could in two hours spent talking to her on the phone.

It also really hinders you ability to flirt with her properly since you can’t take advantage of touch.

However, the biggest downside is that when you talk to a girl on the phone for long chunks of time it lowers your social value. You want her to get the impression that you are a busy guy with a lot of friends and things to do, and that makes your time valuable.

Blowing over an hour on the phone will never convey that message.

You might think that by spending a lot of time talking to her on the phone you’re making her feel important by showing her that she’s worth wasting your precious time on, but that’s incorrect.

Just as easily you could spend that same time on a date with her, and as I just showed you; that is the preferred way to interact with a girl and grow your relationship with her at a rapid pace.

In the beginning phases of dating a girl (before sex), the phone is just a tool for getting her to meet up with you in person, nothing more.

Don’t get sucked into long conversations.

How to use the phone?

Call her up, create a good vibe with some mild flirting, set up a date, then get off of the phone.

Yup, that’s it.

Don’t be an idiot and talk to her for more than 10 minutes. Every minute beyond that will be lowering your value and also forcing you to discuss things that are much better being talked about ON THE DATE.

Talking on the phone offers you zero advantages when it comes to spitting game to her, only disadvantages.

Use it for the purpose of setting up a real meeting with her, then be done with it.

Think of it this way:

The longer you talk to a girl on the phone, the longer you will be waiting before you eventually sleep with her.

Also, the more time you spend on the phone the higher your chances will be of saying the wrong things and making mistakes.

Keep it short and simple, get the job done and then go start getting dressed for your date.

If she tries to keep you on the phone, don’t fall for the trap. Simply use an excuse, such as “I’ve got a few things to do before we meet up later, let me take care of this stuff and I’ll see you in a bit.”

See how that gives the impression that you’re busy and you’re time is important? You’re raising your value while solving the problem.

When you only talk to a girl on the phone for a short period of time, she will always get the impression that you’re not like the other guys who will sit there listening to her ramble on for hours.

She’ll find that extremely attractive, and your date with her will go very well.

The bottom line? The phone is ONLY for setting up dates.

Don’t use it in any other way.

Once you’re in a serious relationship with her – that will change, of course – but that’s not what we are talking about here.

When it comes to casual dating, talk to a girl on the phone for a few minutes and then end it.

That’s how you keep the attraction building.

But what if there was an easier way to just start getting laid by hot women right away?

There is, and I want to share it with you.

Check it out here: “How To Be A Jerk Like Me”

– The Jerk

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