Stop fearing rejection by girls
Believe me when I tell you that you are not alone. I love making up fake statistics, so let’s just say that most likely 50% of all men don’t know how to stop fearing rejection by girls, just like you.
It’s an illogical fear, and you probably know that, but for some reason you just can’t shake it.
You really want to walk up to the next hot girl that you see and start a conversation, but deep down you know that your fear of rejection will show up to crash the party. You’ll end up talking yourself out of it rather than talking to that girl.
The only way to fix your problem is to learn the proper way to stop fearing rejection by girls.
You’ve come to the right place.
You see, most people – when looked at as a whole – are good by nature (or at least have good intentions). So much so that we will avoid being honest and try not to be mean to others simply because we want to avoid conflicts.
Our minds are programmed to be afraid of conflict, because it’s dangerous and danger goes against our primal survival instincts.
It’s for this very reason that you fear rejection, and it’s also the main reason why you shouldn’t!
Did I lose you? Allow me to explain:
You’re afraid to approach girls because you don’t want to put yourself into a situation in which you make a mistake that leads you into a conflict of interest with a girl and she shoots you down.
On the other hand, since about 9 out of 10 people are scared of confrontations just like you (yup, I’m making up more statistics), you have about a 90% chance that the girl you are approaching is afraid of conflict as well.
Meaning that she will do almost anything in her power to avoid getting in a conflict with you.
Think about it; she has no idea who you are and what kind of guy you are. She does not know that you won’t get pissed off and start calling her ugly or other names if she rejects you.
She’ll attempt to avoid that by all means.
How will she avoid that? By either telling you she has a boyfriend or giving you a fake number, and that is the worst case scenario.
Chances are she’ll probably even give you a shot just because you had to balls to approach her (unlike the other guys who let their fear of rejection to control them), even if you don’t spit your best game to her and everything comes out wrong because you’re nervous.
Men are natural initiators, we are the ones that have evolved into those that are by the laws of nature supposed to court the girls, so we are the ones who need to set everything into motion.
I don’t care who you are, what you look like or where you came from; if you are a man then this trait is built into you just like the rest of us, you just need to learn how to control it.
You also need to understand that because we possess this trait and girls do not (at least not built in like we do). This makes us the dominant sex, so chances are any girl you approach will be more scared and nervous than you are.
What, did you think girls don’t fear rejection too?
Yeah, right. Now think about this:
If you approach a girl and she is so nervous that she makes every mistake in the book; forgets what to say, doesn’t look you in the eye, says some dumb shit and makes a complete fool out of herself, would you forget about her and just walk away even though she’s still hot?
Hell fucking no you wouldn’t!
So why would a girl reject you just for making a few mistakes if she thinks you’re attractive?
She won’t, period.
It’s our job as men to choose which girls to approach. It’s our job to get everything started.
If you think that’s hard then think about a girl’s job; they need to worry about each guy that approaches them because they never know if they’ll run into a creep that might rape them, or worse. Now that is a logical fear.
It’s something that’s tangible and real, unlike the false fear we are talking about right now.
With that said you should start to stop fearing rejection by girls right now, but first pump your brakes and stop for a minute.
Think about everything that you just learned and let it all soak in, because you are going to need to remember all of that stuff.
If you forget, come back and read this again.
Why do I want you to remember it all? Because you need to tell yourself 5 things every day:
(1) By nature people are scared of confrontation, so most girls won’t flat out reject me simply because they are afraid of having conflict.
(2) Even if I do get rejected by a girl, chances are she’ll just make up an excuse to have a reason to say no. She won’t be mean about it.
(3) Men are natural initiators and that trait is inside of me. I must embrace the dominant role that I was meant to play, and take action.
(4) If the roles were reversed I wouldn’t reject a girl just because she made a mistake, so they probably won’t reject me for that either.
(5) Being afraid of rejection is an illogical, false fear that has no real consequences or power except for tricking my mind, if I allow it.
Memorize those right now!
These 5 bullet points are the key to stop fearing rejection by girls, so remember them well.
Tell them to yourself every day – out loud in front of the mirror if you have to – whatever it takes to program it into your mind and make yourself believe it.
Once you believe in it, all you need to do is think about it before you approach a girl and your mind will be at ease and free of false fears.
Eventually, you’ll stop fearing rejection for good.
Now let’s bring it all home with a nice little secret to help you handle any type of “I can’t think of what to say” problems you might have:
Remember just a second ago how I said:
“All you need to do is think about it before you approach a girl and your mind will be at ease?”
Well that’s the last thing you should think about. Once you’ve put your mind at ease, turn it off and begin taking action without thinking.
Forget consequences, they don’t exist anymore until you’ve got her number.
Thinking is bad to do when approaching girls.
Don’t think about what you should say, if she will reject you or not, or if she even feels attracted to you. Don’t think about anything.
Live in that moment and let your game shine.
Definitely don’t think about your surroundings, forget about the other people near you and worrying if they are looking at you.
You’ll never stop fearing rejection if you have all that garbage floating in of your head.
“If I Don’t think then how will I even talk?”
Good question. Here’s how:
I’m not telling you to try to block thoughts from entering your mind, that’s impossible unless you’ve been a monk the past 20 years.
I’m simply telling you not to focus on them once they get inside your head, and this is how you do that while still being able to talk:
Always say something related to the first thing that pops into your head, and say it without thinking about it.
If the first thing that pops into your head is “I don’t know what to say” then say just that!
Say something like this to her:
“This usually doesn’t happen to me, I don’t know what to say. There’s just something about you.”
Alternatively, go can go for a teasing approach:
“I don’t know what to say. I’m still trying to figure out if I want your number or not.”
If the first thought that enters your mind is “What if she isn’t attracted to me?” then ask her!
Ask her a straight up question like this:
“You think I’m attractive, right? I hope so because I think you’re really hot.”
Get the idea? It’s all about NOT thinking about anything and just acting on impulse.
Want to know a secret?
There’s no such thing as “the right thing to say” when it comes to talking to a girl.
You can ask people all day for advice on what you should talk about with girls when you approach them and every response you get will be the wrong one, even if it’s coming from the mouth of Don Juan or Cassanova themselves.
Stop looking for the right thing to say. Just talk.
The belief that players and other types of ladies men are successful with girls because they “always say all of the right things” is a myth.
Total bullshit. It’s doesn’t exist.
They get girls because nothing is holding them back from saying what they want, and it’s their ability to do this that makes them attractive, not the specific words that they say.
All of this may sound really complicated right now, but just give it a little time to soak in and then come back to read this again.
I’m not going to lie and tell you that this will be the easiest thing you’ll ever do, but I can promise that it won’t be the hardest.
You want to stop fearing rejection by girls and have the ability to walk up to any woman without worries right? Well now you know how.
What you do now is up to you.
The best way to get started is by reading my book: The Player’s Black Book.
Inside it you’ll learn everything about getting laid from start to finish.
Yes, I mean everything. Even my best kept secrets!
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