Stop being needy around girls
This is a major issue when it comes to dating, especially for us men. More often than not a guy will think he’s doing all of the right things; showering her with attention, always being there when she needs him, treating her like a princess, but ultimately not realize that the reason he keeps failing is because he has to stop being needy with girls and act more like a man.
Women like real men, not clingy little boys.
How needy you appear to be has a direct affect on your perceived social value, and thus your chances of landing yourself some high quality girls.
As a whole, girls have a variety of turn-ons and turn-offs that can vary significantly from girl to girl, but no woman is turned on by a needy man.
You simply will never hear a girl say “I love it when a guy won’t stop texting/calling my phone!”
It just doesn’t happen. Period.
I think by now you are starting to get the picture; acting needy is a really, REALLY big mistake.
This is a surefire way to ruin your chances with any new girl that you’ve just met, and to demolish any new relationships that you are fortunate enough to start. You simply can not maintain the interest and attraction of a girl if she views you as being a needy man.
The reason is quite simple:
She will always think of you as being “below” her from a social standpoint.
Girls don’t seriously date men with less social value than themselves. They may toy around with you and lead you on, but that is as far as it’s going.
Bottom line: stop being needy around girls and you’ll be much more successful.
The question is, how do you know when you’re being needy? What are the major things to avoid doing?
No worries, I’ve got you covered.
I’ve put together a quick check-list for you of the top 5 things that men commonly do (most of the time without even knowing it) that gives off a needy vibe to girl and lowers their social standing.
Use this list to either change your current behavior, or to avoid falling into these mistakes in the future if you haven’t already.
Here they are:
1) Too much contact
This is the biggest of the bunch.
Contacting a girl over and over again is the quickest way to appear needy.
This includes calling her, texting her, showing up at her work and all other forms of communication.
If you initiate contact with her multiple times per day, you are being needy.
The best way to handle this one is to limit yourself to contacting her no more than once per day, and that includes all forms of contact.
A great general rule to follow is to strictly use the telephone (text and talk) to set up dates and meetings, nothing more.
If you’ve been on the phone with her just talking about random stuff for over 30 minutes, you are giving her a bad impression of you.
2) Jealousy over other men
Want to know how to make yourself appear to be really insecure and unworthy of the attention of any hot girl?
Get jealous when it comes to other men, that will definitely do that trick.
Instead, you should act like you don’t care whether she talks to other men (even if you do care) because you know that you are better than those dudes and you aren’t feeling challenged by them at all.
Now, if she is your long term girlfriend and is hanging out with other guys or calling/texting them without your knowledge, then you have a solid reason to step in and put an end to it.
However, anything short of that you should completely blow off like a real man.
In so many cases that I’ve dealt with through my private training service, all the guy had to do to stop being needy with girls was to stop getting jealous.
3) Always available
Needy men make themselves available to the girls that they are interested in 24 hours per day, 7 days per week.
If she calls, a needy man will ALWAYS answer the phone every single time.
If she shows up and asks him to just drop whatever he is doing to help her out with something else, he will listen to her.
Basically, if you give a girl the impression that you are at her call regardless of the time of day or how busy you may be, her perception of you will drop faster than you can blink.
To avoid this, only answer her phone calls or respond to her text messages half of the time, and if she asks you to do something with her when you are already busy, tell her that you are busy and will meet up with her later.
That is how a real man acts, the type of man that she’ll go to bed with in the blink of an eye.
Stop being needy and be that man.
4) Moving too quickly
When a needy man first meets a girl that he falls for immediately, his first instinct is to go full force for a deep relationship with her right away.
He will usually be the first to step it up and ask her to “go steady”, and will also be the first to say the dreaded 3 words “I love you”.
For a lot of men, these things just “feel right” at the time and may appear to be the right thing to do, but believe me they are huge mistakes that can ruin what you are trying to accomplish.
They are relationship killers.
Your attitude toward a girl that you really like should be identical to that of other girls that you are mildly interested in.
At least for the time being.
Pump those brakes and let things within the relationship evolve naturally, don’t force it.
If you stop being needy with girls and trying to shove the relationship in the direction you want it to go, chances are it will eventually get to that point on it’s own and you won’t need to sacrifice your manhood in the process.
5) Never saying no
She might ask for a drink, for you to watch her purse, help her move a couch, give her a ride, loan her some money, change a tire on her car or any other favor that a girl will ask of a man that she believes to be needy enough to give in.
You need to learn how to say NO.
There is nothing wrong with saying no, and it isn’t going to destroy any chances you have of getting with the girl.
If you don’t feel like doing something that she wants, tell her so, don’t just give in because that you are afraid that she may never talk to you again if you say no to her every once in a while.
If she is the type of girl that would drop you over something like that, she isn’t worth your time anyway because all that she is doing is using you.
There you have it.
Those are the biggest mistakes that men make which ultimately lead them to being viewed as needy, and needy is not attractive.
If you want to be highly successful with girls, you will need to learn how to avoid these blunders at all costs.
The good news is, these are all simple aspects of your dating life that you can easily take control of with just a pinch of willpower.
Follow the rules above and stop being needy around women for good!
After you eliminate these bad habits from your natural behavior, you will see a dramatic change in the way that females view you, and will have a much easier time getting them attracted to you and keeping it that way.
Getting over acting needy is one thing, but being able to turn any girl you want into your girlfriend is another thing entirely.
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