Picking Women On Online Dating Websites
So you've already created a witty, original profile that displays your high value with pictures of both your body and face, and included a kick ass description that demonstrates (not states) your personality type a positive traits. You could just leave it at that and hope the women will begin sending messages your way, but where's the fun in that when you've got thousands of hot women to browse through and choose from?
Now its time to figure out who to choose out of the masses, which can actually prove to be much more difficult that it appears to be at first glance. You really can't just browse through the profiles saying to yourself “I'd hit that” and always expect to get what her profile is promising. I've number closed at least 50 women on an online dating website and I wouldn't have even approached them unless they looked hot in their profile pictures. However, something interesting will happen when you see some of them in person; they look nothing like their profile pictures at all. Many times they'll look like the ugly sister of the girl that you thought you were supposed to meet!
Here are a couple of basic rules to follow that will help you to filter through the “fake hot chicks” and locate the ones that are worth spending your time pursuing:
1) Look for women that are following the exact same rules that you are following when it comes to posting picture: closeup face, followed by a full body-shot, then finally any of various pictures they want to use. The more pictures the better. Women are sneaky as all hell, and they will do anything they can to hide their true physique. A big thing they do is offer a full body shot but provide it in a full group picture where they are awkwardly bending or partially obscured by something else. When you see this, alarms should go off in your head because more times than not this is deliberate on her part to hide her true physique. If you are truly interested in the girl, enlarge the picture and study what little of her tummy is showing. I've found so many rolls this way I could start a bakery. And if you've got a single head shot only to work with, move on. Always remember: if a woman REALLY is hot, they will choose pictures that demonstrate that fact, not attempt to hide it. Anything that looks shady probably is.
2) If you are using a feature rich online dating website, always make sure to pay very close attention to how each woman describes her body type. “Full figured”, “more to love”, these are all obvious no's (unless you're into that sort of thing). However, what if she says "about average?” Guess what? Her idea of "average" and your idea of "average" is most likely very different. Her body is not attractive, and this rule has ALWAYS applied in my experience. Move on. That leaves things like “athletic” and “toned” and “slender” as the only applicable options. If you get athletic and toned, thats usually a good sign, but remain on the lookout since butch women with linebacker shoulders will choose this description also. This makes slender by far the best description. If she's putting slender and is anything but, you have every right to call her out on it when the two of you meet in person. It's just ignorant and rude (and it does happen, unfortunately) to blatantly lie about what you look like on an online dating site. Small fibs you can let slide as long as the person looks at least mostly like what you were led to believe. However, if she says that she's thin and ends up weighting 150 pounds, that's just not cool.
3) Don't pay any attention to how much they exercise. They are lying most of the time. If she says that she goes to the gym four times a week, she is probably talking about the one week three years ago when she went four times. In reality she may go once a week, or twice per month for all you know. On the other hand, she could be telling the truth. Regardless, how often they say that they exercise is so unreliable it's best for you to just completely ignore it.
These rules sound simple, but they are important. It's awkward to meet someone for the first time and in 5 seconds realize that your value is so much higher than hers and you feel sick to your stomach, and embarrassed to be stuck on a date with them. Not to mention that you'll be extremely pissed off because of all of the time you wasted gaming her. For that reason, always keep the first date short (I do coffee) unless you are SURE she's hot and you will be satisfied. The last thing you want to do is waste money on a date with a woman you want nothing to do with.
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