Dating Website Profiles: Know The Basics
This is the backbone of your success with online dating and you're selling yourself short if you just churn it out, put it up, and leave it at that. Your profile should be an extension of you. It should be a reflection of your philosophies, your tastes in all things cultural, your sense of humor, your style, who you are, and what you're looking for. It has to have ENERGY, ENERGY, ENERGY! Be open, be honest, be cocky, yet funny. Show some attitude and swagger. show some heart. Show that you're human and genuine.
My online profile has had a lot of success where I've placed it because I've spent two years editing it. It's had many revisions and every few weeks I change a line or two. In this way, writing a profile is a lot like writing a poem, a book, or a short story: It's never finished. There's always room for improvement, and you should seek it out. There's always a little bit more, or a little bit less to say about yourself. You cannot afford for your profile to look like everyone else. Read men's profiles, and find out what clichés are used and then avoid them.
Every site has their own brand due to the different way the information fields are arranged.
One more thing: online dating sites and personals are often used as a crutch for the desperate man with no social skills. Remember: YOU ARE NOT THIS GUY! If you do not express this somehow in your profile, it will simply be assumed. You're not online because you're desperate, you're online because you're looking for someone with a distinct personality (which I am, personally) and possibly because you are a busy man who needs a more “streamlined” way to meet and qualify women. You're looking for someone with the right kind of energy. You're looking for someone who's tired of the club scene. You're online because you haven't met what you're looking for in real life, not because no one else would have you.
DO NOT be whiny and say "I'm using this site because all the women I meet in club suck." Do NOT be negative about the women you meet in your day to day life. A girl is more likely to assume the problem lies with you rather than the rest of the world. But don't forget, YOU ARE QUALIFYING THEM!
You can use the same profile on a variety of websites, so make it the best profile there is.
I recommend leaving an instant message screen name in your profile. A lot of people prefer to make first contact this way.
Profile Clichés
These are not always written exactly the same as I will show you, but I see them all the time in one variety or another. Avoid them:
"I'm often shy at first but I'm very warm and friendly once you get to know me."
"I'm the most funny/interesting/weird/quirky person you'll ever meet!"
"I'm not very good at writing about myself" or "I'm never sure what to write for these things..."
"If you want to know anything more, just ask!" (Never. They will never follow up and ask. They have no incentive to. You tell them about yourself then and there, soldier.)
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