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Comfort Escalation Theory, Keep Moving Up
This concept is something that is not new to the seduction community at all, as it follows the same basic principles as kino escalation. I have taken the concepts from that and applied them neatly to online dating. Allow me to briefly explain the breakdown of the theory:
The Theory - The idea of comfort escalation theory is that you are going to have to make her more comfortable with you before escalating to different forms of contact with her.
What forms of contact do I have with her?
1) Email
2) Instant Messenger
3) Phone
4) In Person (end of online game)
Depending on the level of comfort that you seem that you have with your online target, you may or may not be able to skip some of these steps. These are in no way linear, meaning that you do not necessarily need to follow them in order. I have very frequently gone from 1 to 3, 2 to 4, and even 1 to 4 in just a matter of a few messages. Just like you need to calibrate yourself in the field during offline game, you have to feel out the situation based on her statements, and how quickly she is responding to you. Once you've got a firm grip on where the interaction currently is, you'll then be able to determine how and when to escalate.
How do we become calibrated? This is done the same as you would "in field" in an actual venue. You will need to spend time doing more online game and talking to women through various forms of communication and you will be able to almost imagine her in front of you. Different women can be pushed faster than others, and all of them are different, which is why calibration and having an overall feel for her comfort levels is vitally important.
You need to realize that during comfort escalation, the forms 1, 2, and 3 (e-mail, IM, phone) of communication are very low risk to her in comparison to number 4 (in person). She can easily block your email, or IM screen name, and can screen her calls with caller ID as well. It is a luxury of modern technology, and is a blessing and a curse in your case for online dating; it's great because it makes electronic forms of communication risk free for women, so they are more open, but it also makes the jump from electronic to “real life” a big one. This is why a huge amount of comfort must be established in order to secure an in-person meeting with a woman that you've met online.
If you get shot down while attempting to escalate, never apologize for asking, it is the worst mistake that you could possibly make at that time. Simply go back to the form you were previously in and keep talking/writing her until you get another opportunity to escalate. Keep building comfort and attraction, then after a while you can try to escalate again.
This very theory is a large portion of my online game that I have done in the past. I write it here because I know many of you read this are looking for advice and ideas. This is one of the core ideas that I have about online game. I hope this bit of information helps you get the girl!
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