Hey Player,
I just ran across your web site and also signed up for your newsletter. I'm 17 and, being in my senior year, I'm trying to live it up man. Although, there's one thing that just keeps me from any success and its the biggest part: I just cant ever gather up the balls to go talk to the girl. She's there, and maybe we've made eye contact, but by the time I leave the place, I wont have spoken to her, and I'm kicking myself afterward.
I'm at a loss man. Ill keep reading your site and maybe it will hit me like a brick, or a load of them.
Thanks Player, and keep it real.
Dave
What's up Dave,
You've got to stop thinking about it. The second you make eye contact go over and talk to her, because if you stall you will always end up "talking" yourself out of it. Another thing you may find helpful is called visualization. For example, picture yourself walking over to her and striking up a good convo, making her laugh... and ultimately getting her number. The second that you finish visualizing that in your head, go over and execute it. That technique has proved to greatly boost confidence... and will also help to make your conversation with the girl go along smoothly.
By now you know that if you do not initiate the conversation there is a very slim chance that it will ever take place. You've got to say "fuck it" and quit worrying about what other people think. After you approach a few women it will become rather easy to do, and the fear will fade away. It's kind of like getting into a cold pool; you've just got to jump in... then the water will get warmer.
Good luck,
- The Player
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