Help!
I know this girl that already has a boyfriend, but she treats me better than she
treats him. She flirts with me but I refuse to flirt back because I
think that it's wrong. We seem to talk very well too. What should i do?
- Nathan
Hi Nathan,
If I were in your position (and I have been before), only one factor could
make me decide against getting with this girl. I strongly believe in loyalty
between friends, and if you are good friends with her boyfriend, then my
advice is to maintain your neutral position. Women come and go... so do most
friends, but women tend to come and go as fast as the mailman.
However, everything IS fair in love and war - if you are simply acquainted
with her boyfriend, or don't know him at all, then you would be neglecting
yourself if you did not jump on this opportunity. One of the major things
that separates us players from the rest is that we never miss a golden
opportunity such as the one your are currently being presented with. Trust
me, if you don't make a move you will always be wondering "What if".
Another thing you should be asking yourself is why would she be flirting and
talking with you so much. It is obvious that she is not happy with her
current relationship in some way, or that she notices qualities in you that
her boyfriend lacks. Either way, she feels that she would be more happy with
you, so my advice is to make her more happy :)
P.S. Taking someone else's girl is a complicated task. Take is slow at
first, maybe just mildly flirting back one day, then stepping it up a notch
the next. Keep me informed and I'll guide you through it. I also suggest
that you use my "attention trick" which has proved to be extremely effective
in situations like yours. You can find it on my web site in the rulebook
section, #4 under the top 10 rules.
- The Player
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