I'm writing to you because I am just at the point of starting a really great relationship with a girl, but I don't know what to talk about on the phone because she is really quiet. I was just wondering if maybe you can give me a couple good convo starters that will get her talking or something I can say that would flatter her!
Thanks,
Justin
What's up Justin,
What I've found to be the best conversation starters are anything that has to do with what the particular girl is interested in, which most of the time, will be an extremely boring topic for us, as men, to talk about. However, all you really have to do is start the conversation and then listen, because once you hit a subject that she knows alot about, or thinks about alot, she will do most of the talking. That is why it is extremely important to listen to every word she says and everthing she does, so you can find out what her interests are and what would be the best things to talk about. For in-depth info on doing this, you can read my article entitled "When it goes in one ear, plug the other" which you will find at http://www.becomeaplayer.com/articles/listen.htm.
Another thing that you should keep in mind is to always try to relate to her by saying "me too" alot. For example, whenever she says that she likes something, say "me too". This will make her think that you have alot in common with her. Doing this will make her warm up to you and become more talkative and open. She is a shy girl, and all you have to do is get her to feel comfortable around you, and then you won't be able to shut her up. You may think she is very comfortable around you already, but trust me, if she likes you alot she will be even more shy around you than she is around everyone else. That makes your job a little bit harder, but it will be worth it in the end.
If you really want to flatter her with some prize winning compliments, tell me some things about her (mostly her appearance but some things about her personality)... the good things and the bad. Especially certain things about her that you think she may be insecure about. Do that and I'll come up with some unique things you can say to her.
-The Player
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