Hi,
I just want to know if you can give me a few small tips. I can
never seem to score with any good looking girls. My standards seem to be getting
lower and lower!! I'm nervous and afraid to approach girls when I'm out and
about because I'm afraid of what they will say about me and especially reject
me. I always have to have had a few drinks to speak to girls and when I do I
make a fool of myself whereas my friends can go and speak to any girl in the
place with ease. I'm going out this weekend so if you could help me it would
be great.
Anxiously awaiting your reply,
Matt
Hi Matt,
I know exactly where you are coming from, because you are exactly like I was
before I became a player. Instead of setting your standards lower on the
type of girls you go after, lower your standards on what they say to you
when you approach them. What you have to do is just suck it up and go out
looking to get rejected. Go up to the hottest girls you see and try talking
to them and getting their numbers. If you go up to REALLY hot girls, you
will almost get rejected every time, but that should be your goal. After
getting rejected a few times you will realize that it is not that bad at
all. Almost all girls will let you down rather lightly by saying something
like "I've got a boyfriend", or even give you a fake phone number because
they don't want to appear as a mean person.
Having a few drinks before approaching women is the exact reason why you are
making a fool of yourself, and the exact reason why I never drink at all.
Some guys think that they can mack better when they are drunk, but it is
actually the opposite. Things you say when you are drunk may sound better to
you at that moment, but if you were sober and listening to yourself you
would not believe how stupid you sound. The only thing alcohol does is give
you the balls to go up and initiate the conversation, but if you are used to
getting rejected and know that it's not so bad, you will be able to approach
with confidence. That is the key word, confidence.
Confidence is the most important thing to display when trying to attract
women, because on the list of things that attracts women, confidence is
nombre uno. The simple act of going up to a girl that you have never met
before and striking up a conversation is a huge display of confidence. I
have tested this many times by going out with some friends of mine that look
much better than me, and each time I would go up to a group of hot girls, by
myself before anyone else got the chance, and begin talking with them. This
made me appear to the most confident in our group, in essence... the alpha
male, and guess who ALL of the women wanted? By the end of the night I was
able to choose whichever girl I desired.
After getting over your fear of rejection you will have no problem
approaching girls, and once you have accomplished that, you will be able to
practice talking to them which will make you a much better conversationalist
with women. So here is my homework assignment for you...
While you are out and about this week, go up to five of the best looking
girls that you see (only girls that you've never met before), and strike up
a conversation with each one of them. Be ready to get rejected, and when you
do, just smile and take it like a man, you will notice that it will actually
feel good because you've achieved your goal, which was not to get her
number, but rather to get up the balls to talk to a drop-dead gorgeous girl
while you were completely sober. Here are some things to remember while you
are doing this...
1. When you approach them, SMILE A LOT. Nothing can make you seem more
attractive than a smile.
2. Don't just ask for her number, open up with a simple "Hi, I'm Matt"
which is the absolute best opening statement you could use.
3. If you can't thing of anything unique to say to her, ask for her opinion
of something. For instance, say something along the lines of "I'm thinking
about buying this new cologne, but first I want to find out if it will
attract beautiful women, so would you tell me if this smell would attract
you". Make sure you've got a tester bottle of cologne, which you can get at
any department store for free, I recommend Acqua Di Gio by Armani because
women simply love that cologne, which will make the women you approach think
you've got really good taste.
Hope this helps, let me know if you've got any other questions and how
things are going after you try talking to a few women.
Good luck,
-The Player
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