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Hi Brad,
Love your "Diary of a Pickup Artist" book.. Inspiring and funny as hell. I'm most impressed by your incredible and finely tuned calibration skills: your ability to change game midflow. It's amazing.
I know you've written about your background here and there, but I was wondering if you could expand in more detail your journey to mastery. It's more intriguing since you admit you developed your skills without the help of any of the known gurus.
How did that journey unfold? Did you simply copy what your natural friends were doing? What were those things? What kind of roadblocks, kinks, changes in mindsets that enabled you to progress so rapidly? And where were you when you started? By the last question I mean did you have approach anxiety, or did you have that down and it was a matter of getting #closes? Where did you start? How did your calibration skills get so damn good?
Maybe you could post something on your blog. That would be great. I think a lot of guys would appreciate it. Brad, thanks for your time and I look forward to reading future posts.
Best
Ian
OK this isn't something I would normally write a newsletter about, because it's a little presumptuous for me assume people would care to read it, but perhaps Ian has a point. So I'll write it, even if only one guy is interested.
Yes, this is correct, I accumulated the majority of my skillset without the gurus. It was f*&king hard and I hope you guys appreciate that a good coach can help you get there with less work than I had to do. Coming in, I had some advantages and some disadvantages.
disadvantages-
long history of being nerdy
nice guy tendencies
awkward physical stature
not really super good looking
flat broke and in CC debt, bad apartment
I also had some advantages.
advantages-
had well developed identity
had cool hobbies
I had a history of skill building, mostly from college basketball and being a self taught guitar player
Personality traits- I'm analytical, and very stubborn and determined
Background in psychology and philosophy
Had access to naturals
I read a few self help books and one of them pointed me in the direction of "meeting women is a skill you can learn." I started building that skill 7 days a week. Along the way I read some of the free emails from dating advice lists. Some of it was good, some not. I didn't read much, I'd say less than 100 pages total.
From there I ended up going on this long trip, traveling on business. I was only in each town for a few days, and so I had no choice but to do tons of approaches. This is how I viewed it: I could either learn to get women in the sack fast, or else it would be a life of celibacy. I viewed it as a "do or die" situation.
I did so many approaches it was crazy. About 15 a day, every day. The first natural I worked with was Joe Natural, who I later interviewed for my Interviews with Naturals series.. He fixed my look, my hair, and he had the whole game totally down. This guy has banged tons of girls, lots of models and actresses, he even outgamed Tommy Lee to the point that the bodyguards threw him out for stealing all the girls. I copied a lot of what Joe does.
It was a little awkward in the beginning. I remember my friends were talking behind my back and saying I was trying to be like him, but I didn't care. Joe is not a guru or community guy, and he even gave me flak a few times for "trying to run some wacky game." A lot of people I knew thought I was being weird. But I was getting some results, so I didn't care what people said.
I ended up traveling all over the USA for 8 months learning all parts of the game- approach, phone, escalation, etc. I only had one opener for the first 4 months (Hey do you know where to get cotton candy around here this time of night?) but I had delivered it so many times that it developed into an entire stack. Joe had been using the same stories all the time too, so I knew I could repeat the same stuff all the time and it would work.
During my 8 month "bootcamp period" I was flying solo about 80% of the time, but I worked with another natural as well. The 2nd natural I was working with was this black skateboarder guy. He was super aggressive and opportunistic. He did stuff that made no sense, like hit on fat girls. Then the fat girls would lead us to hot girls and it would all make sense. I got my aggressiveness from him.
I took some hard knocks from being too aggressive, but I had to test the limits of what I could get away with. I think I was a dick to a few girls by being uncalibrated, but I learned by trial and error.
A crucial part of my development was that I made a choice that I would rather be too aggressive than not aggressive enough. I decided I would accept the consequences of being too aggressive, but I would never accept thinking about "what might have been" as a result of being too passive.
By the time I finished my 8 month bootcamp, I had some seriously amazing routines like horsegirl and reckon/yonder. I had lost my job and was broke, so I decided to start a little class in meeting women. All my friends were telling me to teach it cause I was teaching them. I've done a few homemade business ideas previously, so I figured why not try one more.
Then I went away for a while to develop my game more. I spent 3 months learning how to get a one night stand. I learned from another natural- The Pheromone Kid. He could seduce women in under 10 minutes.
Joe Natural pulled more high quality, but the Kid just had pure speed unlike anything I'd ever seen. I got my one night stand game really down to the point where I could pull maybe 60% of the time, and the girls had to be cute. Almost all the girls I pull are 8 or higher and are between 19 and 24 years old.
I could probably pull a higher % if I lowered standards, but I'd rather keep the standards up. Again, there were some hard knocks along the way. I lost a few lays at the last second. I got CBed all over the place, but it forced me to develop every part of my game.
By the time I got back from that my game was super tight. Going away and traveling helped a lot. Working with the naturals helped a lot too.
The next part of my game I had to learn was 3somes. I always wanted to have threesomes, and I never really got it done. I met another natural- Buzzy, who walked me through it completely. That was really hard to learn, but I got it down. I've had I think 6 3somes this year, all with different sets of girls. I've done it in many forms-
2 girls I've already been with (this is easiest),
1 girl I know and hunt for the 2nd girl together,
2 new girls.
Very challenging stuff.
Now I bring this power to you.. I hope you enjoy it and the experience changes your life. I know it changed mine.
Click HERE to get it now!
-Brad P.
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