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Hey Joseph,
I have been using your emails and applying
them in real life, and I got a girlfriend!
But I heard from a one of her friends that
she wants me to kiss her next time we meet,
and this would be her first kiss.
One of my friends told me to do it while
she's in mid-sentence because girls love
that. Is that true?
How should I do it? I don't have any
experience with kissing either cause this
would be my first as well.
Also are there signs that I should look for
when she's ready or can you give me an idea
of the general environment we should be in
when we kiss? Thanks.
Sincerely,
Kissing Virgin
First of all, congratulations on landing a
"girlfriend."
I get emails all the time from guys who've
had amazing success using my tips and tactics
to land hook-ups, girlfriends, and even wives!
But it seems that you're kind-of young and
just starting to gain experience in the
world of women...
(which is good, because the younger you start,
the better you'll be when you're older!)
But for old farts like me, allow me to share
some friendly male advice --
First off, I would never consider a girl my
"girlfriend" until I have at least made-out
with her.
Why is this?
Because too many guys meet a girl they get
along with, go out on a few dates, and think
she's their "girlfriend" when in reality,
she's still playing the field.
This is how many guys get their hearts broken.
A girl's willingness to spend time with you
is not the primary factor in determining
her "girlfriend" status.
If she's willing to kiss you and make out
with you, that's the FIRST STEP to solidifying
her in a romantic capacity.
Why is this?
Because kissing allows her (and you) to judge
how close you want to get with the other person.
If the kissing isn't good - then all the other
stuff kissing leads to might not be good either!
So kissing is important.
But too often, guys really can drop the ball
when it comes time to "make the move" and go
in for the kiss.
Seriously, have you ever had a time where you're
with a girl, and you really wanted to kiss her,
but you were too nervous to do so and let the
opportunity pass you by?
Or maybe you actually went in for the kiss and
the entire act turned into an awkward moment
because you didn't calibrate right?
Well: You're not alone.
This happens A LOT.
But when it does happen, and happen right, it
can be magical.
In my younger, wilder years, I had met a
beautiful girl that I took out on a date.
We went out to dinner, then went dancing,
and then bowling (for those of you who
know my mini-date theory, this will make
sense).
The entire time, we were having a blast!
Eventually, we ended up at an all-night
diner at around 2 o'clock in the morning.
We were sitting across from each other,
laughing, joking, etc. She was drinking
coffee, I was nibbling some fries...
And I just KNEW it was time to kiss her.
But like most guys, in my younger years,
I was inexperienced and nervous about
the whole ordeal.
I mean, I didn't want to blow it with this
girl, but I knew I had to take the chance.
So I looked her in the eyes and said:
"Come here and sit next to me. I want to
show you something."
Suddenly, the look on her face changed.
It was as though she knew what I was
getting at (even though at the time, I
was too scared witless to notice!).
So she got up and slid into the booth
right next to me.
I put my arm around her and looked her
in the eyes...
And I slowly moved in...
She closed her eyes...
And I then proceeded to give her an
"eskimo kiss."
(For those of you who don't know what that
is, its when you rub your noses together
in a gentle, nuzzling way.)
Suddenly she opened her eyes and said:
"What was that?"
"Uh, an... eskimo kiss?" I replied nervously.
"You called me over here to give me
an ESKIMO kiss?" she asked.
It was in that moment I knew how retarded
I was being. So I threw caution to the
wind and kissed her right there.
This lead to a massive make-out session that
then lead to other stuff... but for the
purpose of this email, I'll stay on topic. =)
So as you can see, she was READY to be kissed,
but it took me a moment to realize I was
being stupid and my fear was holding me
back.
It was a valuable lesson for me.
Here are some simple guidelines to follow
when it comes to kissing women that will
help you to avoid acting like the idiot
I was...
First of all, don't just kiss her when
YOU feel like it. Kiss her when SHE feels
like it.
Sometimes the woman you're with will be
ready to kiss you very quickly. Other
times, it might take her a while to be
in the mood.
There are a couple ways to know when she's
ready.
The first is: Does she touch you a lot?
The power of touch is very erotic, no matter
how you look at it. Is she reaching over and
gently touching your arm when she talks to you?
Does she hug you?
Does she tap you playfully?
Any form of touching is a signal of interest
from a woman. This is why dancing can be
so powerful. As I like to say, if a woman
is willing to dance with you, she's willing
to make out with you! It's an extension of
the same thing. =)
The second thing you need to test for is:
how does she react when you touch her?
Is she comfortable with you touching
areas such as her hair, cheek, neck
or shoulder?
If she is, it means she's comfortable enough
with you physically to be willing to kiss
her.
If she isn't comfortable with this kind of
touching, back off for a bit and try again
later to see how she responds.
The third thing is: Look at her eyes!
When she's ready to kiss you, you'll
notice two things about her eyes.
First of all - her pupils will be dilated.
The bigger her pupils are, the more aroused
she is.
Second of all - if her eyes are flittering
back and forth between your eyes (otherwise
known as the "eye scan" movement), that's
a 100% GO signal that she's ready to be
kissed!
(Seriously, if you see this eye scan, don't
hesitate - go for it right there!)
Nowadays, here's how I like to initiate the
kiss...
When I know she's ready, I'll reach out my
hand and cup her cheek, and I'll be looking
her directly in the eye.
Then I'll slowly move forward and gently kiss
her lips.
Then I'll kiss her again and again a little
more firmly.
If she doesn't respond, I'll pull back, if
she does, I'll take it further.
Now, I could go into more detail, but this
newsletter is already running a bit long
for my tastes.
If you REALLY want to get good at this, I
suggest you check out my book "The Art Of
Approaching."
In it, you'll find some killer tactics that
will help you make your move.
Check it out by clicking this link:
Check Out The Art Of Approaching Here!
Once I'm done with you, you'll be a lean,
mean, romance machine.
Talk soon,
Joseph Matthews
P.S. Want to learn more about kissing? Then you
need to check out this site now:
Discover More Kissing Techniques Here!
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