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How To Destroy Jealousy And Neediness
from JK
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Hi Joseph,
I want to know if you can help me with
something. I have red a lot of dating
books and every single one I looked for
a topic "What to/How to respond if a
women is trying to make you jealous."
None of them cover it and I need to know
how. I have to deal with it a lot. For
example: Last night I called a girl that
I really like and then she told me that
next weekend she is going away and she
is going to be naughty.
And unlucky for me, I can't go with her
and she is going to be naughty with all
the other men. All I said was "yeah
whatever" and I need a better way to
deal with it.
Thank You
JK
Now, here's what I find funny about this
email...
The girl in JK's question here doesn't
seem to be dating him or involved with
him in any way.
She's just a "girl he really likes."
But the fact that she told him she plans
to go out and have fun with other guys
is enough to claw at his mind like a
rabid wolverine.
Now, this phenomenon is not just something
that JK experiences. Its actually quite
common.
After all, we've all had women we find
incredibly attractive who haven't quite
"noticed us" and cause us to feel jealous
of their attraction to other men.
But here's the thing...
This isn't really jealousy. If JK was
actually in a relationship with this
woman, then YES, that would be jealousy.
But he's NOT.
In fact, what he's really feeling is
NEEDINESS.
He's put all his eggs in one basket. There's
just one girl he likes and he's focusing
ALL HIS ATTENTION on her!
This is a mistake so many of us guys
make.
We get so wrapped up in one girl that when
she does anything with other guys, our
alarm bells go off!
"Uh oh! She might get stolen away from
me before I have a chance to prove
myself! What am I gonna do???"
And when you realize there's very little
you CAN do, you begin to feel helpless,
frustrated, and angry.
(And as we all know, these are emotions
that will hurt you more than help you!)
I call the combination of these three
emotions NEEDINESS.
You feel like you NEED to attract this
girl.
You feel like you NEED to compete for
her affection.
You feel like you NEED to prove you're
better than the other men out there.
But here's the million dollar question...
WHY????
Why is it YOU who needs HER? Why isn't
it the other way around?
There's a concept people in the stock
market know well. Its called...
DIVERSIFICATION.
What this means is that instead of putting
all your money in one stock, you buy lots
of different stocks so that if one crashes,
you don't lose all your money.
When it comes to eliminating neediness,
diversification is the way to go.
See, too often its easy to get so enamoured
with one woman, that we cut ourselves off
from great opportunities with other women.
When you diversify, you accept these
opportunities instead of ignoring them.
This means when one girl runs out to "get
naughty" with other men, what do you care?
You have 10-20 other girls in the wings
to occupy you.
And when you have choice, other women start
needing YOU.
Now that's a good position to be in!
But how do you get into the position where
you have 10-20 women in the wings?
The answer is THE ART OF APPROACHING. Its
the only full step-by-step guide on how
to meet more women than you know what to
do with.
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