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Mr. DeAngelo,
Your E-book has made my dating life a complete
Cinderella story. The reality that I live in now
would just be unimaginable to myself in the
mind set I held over a year ago. In high school,
I was your typical acne scarred, pasty, out of
shape, dungeons and dragons-type shy loser. When
I started college, however, I became so
determined and focused on doing WHATEVER it takes
to completely turn my life around, that things
started to change faster than I could imagine. I
started working out, eating right, and I started
listening to Anthony Robbins and Brian Tracy
audio tapes to sort of build a base on which I
could set my goals in life and reprogram all the
garbage and limiting beliefs in my head.
Invariably, I came upon my dating life and
decided to do whatever it takes to make myself as
attractive as possible. at 19, I had never
previously kissed a girl or even had the guts to
ask one out.. was always the shy guy. But I was
determined to be the biggest ladies man on campus,
and with your help I've made this happen.
Of all the self-improvement type stuff I have
invested in, I must say that your e-book and
monthly series was definitely the best and most
rewarding investment I have ever made. And coming
from my position, this is a huge compliment. Some
people don't know what they are missing out on by
not investing in your program.
Everything in life all comes down to a decision.
If you think that you deserve great women, great
relationships, and a better quality of life
overall, then you owe it to yourself to try out
David's E-book, monthly series, and Advanced
Series. If it doesn't work after-all, he is giving
you the chance to send it back! Hrmm.. maybe I
should stop there.. i don't want my competition
to become too fierce.
And now comes a very important question which I
don't think has been addressed at all.. I think
I've come to the point where I've mastered my
"inner game".. My body language is hypnotic and
forceful, physically I'm in the best shape I
could possibly be in, my presence around other
people is very charismatic and domineering. My
ease and complete comfort ability in being myself
around women is just... I guess magnetic. I'm
usually the life of the party when in a group
situation. Of course, I'm not saying this to
brag... All of these things I have worked on,
just like any other skill.. on to the question:
do you think there is ever such a point where a
person has to transcend the cocky and funny
approach? I'm beginning to think that with all
I've got going for me that if I lay on C&F too
heavily I just become unapproachable to many
women, and I've noticed now more than ever that
EXTREMELY beautiful women do get very nervous
around me especially with all the other
characteristics I've come to master.
If you're ever in Atlanta, drinks are on me Dave.
-D from Atlanta
First of all, I want to congratulate you from
taking your life from a place where you were 19
years old and had never kissed a girl... or even
asked a girl out... to where you are taking good
care of yourself, respecting your body, and doing
the things you need to do to get where you want to
go in life.
As you know, I get a lot of email from guys
who need advice about situations with women, and
it really amazes me how many of those guys
haven't taken the time to really get the BASICS
handled...
I'm talking about the simple things like
keeping yourself healthy, addressing your
psychological issues... becoming an honest,
authentic person... and all that self-help-ish
stuff that most people think is kind of dorky...
This stuff is KEY to success with women.
There is a very interesting transformation
that takes place when a guy gets his life
together, and begins living the way he WANTS to
live.
As your email communicates clearly, your new-
found confidence is very closely related to your
self-improvement program.
I hope this encourages others to do the same,
and to realize that the rewards are so amazing
that it's worth it.
Let's talk about your question...
You asked if there ever comes a time when you
should "transcend" the Cocky & Funny approach...
because women sometimes become nervous around
you, etc.
Let me answer that with a few random points
that come to mind, and then I'll tie it all
together with my general perspective...
1) You have cultivated a strong, confident,
dominant body language and communication that has
become what you might call "INNER COCKY."
As a result, you don't have to mix quite as
much "Cocky" in the actual verbal conversations
you're having.
If you project too much of the INNER COCKY,
while at the same time using overly-cocky WORDS
well, you might come off as INSECURE or even TOO
ARROGANT.
Now I don't say things like this very often,
because most guys are so far from being "too
cocky" that there's almost NOTHING they could do
to project even ENOUGH cocky.
2) There is a particular situation that comes up
for guys who have a strong physical presence...
or guys who are naturally very handsome...
If these guys are too cocky with women, many
women get a first impression that is basically
"You must be a jerk."
Be careful. It might backfire on you.
3) If a woman is getting nervous around you, it
does NOT mean that you're doing something wrong.
Just think about how you used to feel when you
were in the presence of a super-hot woman.
Most guys become EXTREMELY nervous in these
types of situations... so much so that they're
actually IMMOBILIZED... and unable to act.
If a beautiful fashion model wrote in to me
and told me that guys get nervous around her all
the time... and then she asked if she should
somehow "tone down" how she looks so guys wouldn't
become nervous, I'd respond to her and say "Hell
no. You WANT guys to become nervous around you
because it separates the REAL men from the
WUSSIES...".
In your case, these women are becoming nervous
because THEY don't know how to handle the
situation... which is not a problem at all for
you or for the ATTRACTION she's feeling.
Look, you are becoming a POWERFUL MAN.
You are beginning to realize and cultivate
some of the natural potential that you've always
had inside... you just didn't know how to get at
it before.
Success and power often scare people, because
with success and power comes responsibility.
You realize that you're not a victim in your
life anymore, and you begin to see how you can
take control of almost every aspect of your
life... and then you begin to see that people
want to FOLLOW your lead because you have this
power...
It is magnetic, as you mentioned.
To answer your question directly, and connect
all of these things together, I think that you
need to realize that Cocky & Funny can be thought
of in a lot of ways...
It's a concept, an idea. It's a technique,
with specific "comebacks" and "lines" for
different funny situations. It's a tool to use
for creating Sexual Tension and Chemistry with
women.
But, as far as I'm concerned, it's FUN... it's
something that's enjoyable for the man AND the
woman.
And for most guys, it's very natural (once you
become comfortable with it).
I mean, if you like to think in terms of
things being "transcended" in life, we could just
say that you're on the path to transcend
everything, and the faster you can transcend your
need to be with women, the better off you are...
...but, then again, that might be going a
little too far... lol.
As I read your letter, I thought to myself:
"He needs to learn the Advanced material"...
I think that you need to continue on your
self-improvement track... and I think that you
really should be dealing with a different issue.
Instead of focusing on one technique, I think
you need to be learning more about this
particular area of your life... and I think you
need to be focusing on figuring out how YOU want
to do it.
My advice?
If you're reading this right now, and
you're thinking to yourself, "I want to know how
this guy went from being 19 and never even
KISSING or asking a girl out... to having this
kind of power and confidence...", then start by
downloading my online eBook FIRST. It's the best
introduction to my concepts available and you can
download it right now and be reading it within a
few minutes. Read it while you're waiting for my
Advanced Series to arrive... It's here:
Click HERE to get it now!
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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