Read a girl’s body language
The art of knowing how to read a girl’s body language is a necessary skill to learn if you want to pick up women and know the signs that a girl likes you.
Knowing what her body language is telling you can have a huge impact on your success.
It can all be summed up into one simply question: How can you tell when a girl likes you?
Just read her body language, that’s it!
This page contains my comprehensive guide for reading and interpreting the body language of women. This is a basic tutorial on how to read body language when you are around a girl that you like so you can tell how much she’s into you.
Get ready to learn:
– Basic knowledge of body language.
– How to read body language.
– Signs that a girl is interested in you.
– Signs that a girl is loosing interest.
– Body language tricks you can use.
Understanding how a girl’s body language works is the first step.
Read on and learn just how powerful of a tool non-verbal signals can actually be.
STEP 1: Understanding body language
Did you know that most of the communication that goes on between two people is non-verbal?
Most men don’t even know it, and even more of us don’t notice even the most basic nonverbal signals that girls send out. But regardless of how oblivious you may be, body language still affects your life in a major way on a daily basis.
During a typical conversation, the body language of the individuals talking can tell you everything you need to know about their interaction even if you can’t hear what they are saying.
That makes it very powerful when harnessed by someone who has mastered the art of reading body language.
Subconscious body language signals
People are constantly using their bodies to send signals to each other on a subconscious level, so body language is something that you can always rely on to assist you when it comes to attracting girls.
It is a tool that will always be there at your disposal regardless of any girl that you are gaming.
This is because the vast majority of body language signals are done automatically (like breathing) below the normal level of conscious thought, so all women are basically forced to give off these signals that you can pick up on.
Even if they didn’t intend to send information through their body language, they can’t help it unless they make a conscious effort to resist their natural behavior.
That is extremely rare since it requires the girl to have in-depth knowledge of controlling her own body language.
The trick to using body language for seduction purposes is to gain the ability to purposely pick up on and identify the signals that girls send out subconsciously, then use a girl’s body language signals to gather information that you can use.
The most basic example of this would be to read a girl’s body language to determine whether or not she is into you, and then altering your game accordingly until her body language changes to a more positive nature.
That is just the tip of the iceberg though, you can also use body language to collect much more valuable and targeted information.
We will soon discuss that in full detail further down on this page.
Reading a girl’s body language signs
Just like traffic signs work to give you information that you use to alter your driving behavior, body language signs can tell you things that you need to know to alter your gaming.
If you are going 45 MPH and notice a sign that says 25 MPH, you then know that you need to either slow down or run the risk of getting a ticket.
If you notice a girl point her shoulders away from you, that tells you that she has just lost some interest and you must change your strategy or risk getting rejected.
That is the basic process behind body language, you must first recognize the signals and identify what they mean, then use the information that they conveyed to you in a way that works to your benefit.
What you can accomplish through this will shock you.
This is a very simple system, but it takes time to master. However, once do become proficient at reading body language it will become second nature to you and you’ll have no problem using it.
This is a skill that will last a lifetime and can be applied to many other aspects of life as well.
How to know what a girl is thinking
These body language signals show exactly what people are TRULY feeling at the time, and they are our body’s way of subconsciously saying the things that we are thinking but would never say aloud.
Have you ever wanted to read another person’s mind?
Well, reading body language is the only skill known to man that can actually tell you exactly how others are feeling, and in your case, how a particular girl feels about you.
Not exactly mind reading, but it is a closest thing to it that actually works out in the real world.
Everything else is nothing more than science fiction.
Now that you understand how a girl’s body language works, the next step is to learn how to read these signals so you can “translate” them, which brings us to the fine art of reading body language.
STEP 2: Reading body language
Reading a girl’s body language is a vast subject worthy of it’s own website or book, so I will only be able to scratch the surface in this guide.
The level of skill you can achieve is only limited by how much you learn about the subject, so if you are looking for a much more in-depth view on body language you should read “The Player’s Black Book”.
However, it is only necessary for you to have a basic understanding of a girl’s body language in order to be far ahead of your competition.
The average man is completely naive when it comes to body language, which results in most of them missing out on many opportunities with girls simply because they can not interpret the nonverbal signals that girls are sending to them.
Once you become proficient at reading body language, you too will see the true extent of how blind you have been for most of your life.
The way you interact with people socially will be forever changed for the better.
Social interaction and body language
Have you ever met someone who just seemed a little bit more “socially attuned” than most people are?
Like they somehow just always knew the right direction to take the conversations and could stay in control of everything when dealing with other people?
Surely you’ve known at least one person like that.
Chances are, that person was either schooled in the art of reading body language or had the innate ability to do so (it’s rare, but some people are just born with it).
When you learn how to read body language, you too will seem to have heightened senses on a social level.
Having exceptional skill at reading body language can provide a huge boost to your overall social life!
So far in this guide I have been referring to body language cues as either “signs” or “signals”, which allowed me to use some analogies that helped to get my point across and explain how body language works.
However, from now on I will be referring to a girl’s body language cues as “gestures” as that term is much more fitting with what they actually are.
When you think of them as gestures rather than signs, your mind thinks about them as being movements.
The term gesture refers to something dynamic while the term sign implies something static. You want to keep you mind ready to pick up on the changes in a girl’s body language, so you’ll always be looking for movements.
Body language signs and gestures
Body language consists of two basic types of gestures: open gestures and closed gestures.
Open gestures are displayed when the girl is interested in or attracted to the person presented to her, while closed gestures are displayed when she is not.
Even though a girl may initially display open gestures to a man because she may find him visually appealing, she may change her mind after he beings to speak and her body language will change to reflect her new state of mind by displaying closed gestures.
This works both ways as well; if a girl displays closed gestures to you at first, you can try gaming her in various ways until you see an open gesture.
As soon as you see one open gesture, from that point on you know exactly what type of game she responds to, and can continue to do it.
This is a prime example of how body language can make all of the difference when dealing with girls, it is the easiest way to determine what works on a particular girl and what does not.
Becoming a master of body language is to gain the ability to recognize all of the most common open and closed gestures and then interpret them so you can use that information to your advantage.
Granted, you must first understand the fact that many things can affect a girl’s body language, not just you.
For example, if a girl is having a bad day, she may display closed gestures while she is actually attracted to you.
In cases like this you may need to warm the girl up a little bit before you can see her true signals.
Also keep in mind that many shy people automatically put up a barrier between you and them by displaying closed gestures, it is simply in their nature and is a defense mechanism.
The ability to break down those kind of barriers by changing a girl’s closed gestures into open gestures is what separates experts from the rest.
Learn body language step by step
However, every journey begins with a single step, and before you can master the art of body language you will first need to know some of the most basic open and closed gestures so you can identify them when they are displayed by girls.
As I mentioned earlier, body language is a very deep subject, it has been a major social aspect throughout all eras of human history.
It’s only recently that we have gained the knowledge to properly pick up on it on a conscious level and then use it to achieve our own goals.
By now you should have a general understanding of how a girl’s body language works and how to read it.
You should also know that you have the ability to affect and change another person’s body language from negative to positive (or vice versa) by simply reading their current gestures and changing your behavior accordingly to get desired results.
It’s time to move onward and learn what these gestures are so you can identify and use them successfully during your encounters with girls:
Open gestures: Signs that a girl likes you
She touches or adjusts herself
Once you make eye contact with a girl, watch her for a few seconds after she looks away. If she does something that implies that she has become nervous due to you making eye contact, this means that she is interested in or attracted to you. For example, she will: play with her hair, adjust her clothing or jewelry, or fiddle with something in her hands. This behavior shows you that making eye contact with you had an emotional effect on her.
She exposes her palms to you
Most girls will expose their wrists and palms of their hands only to people that they are either interested in or already comfortable with. This is a subconscious display of being submissive to you, in which her body is saying “I’m attracted to you, and waiting for you to make a move”. This is a gesture used frequently by girls who are shy, so when dealing with a girl who may be a bit lacking in social skills, always keep an eye out for their wrists and palms.
She points her shoulder at you
Her shoulder orientation is one of the most obvious signs of attraction, simply because this gesture is the most common nonverbal indicator of interest that almost all girls frequently use. Her upper body will most likely be facing you if she is interested with her shoulders facing you, and on the flip side her shoulders will be pointed in a different direction if she is not interested in you. In essence, she will point her shoulders at what she wants. This gesture is also one that can change quite frequently, so as you are gaming a girl always be aware of the changes in her shoulder orientation; if she points them away from you unexpectedly then you just made a mistake, and if she points them at you all of a sudden, you just did something right.
She leans in toward you
Leaning forward is also an easy sign to pick up, and is a very strong sign that the girl leaning towards you is attracted to you. If her shoulders point at you and she is also leaning in towards you, then you can put your mind at ease, you are making a lot of the right moves. Be wary however, because at any time she could lean back into a normal upright position, and if she does so directly after you’ve done/said something questionable it may be a sign that you just lost a few “points”. If that happens, make a mental note of the mistake to ensure that you do not repeat it in the future.
She opens or crosses her legs
When sitting and her legs or feet are widened this means she is very comfortable with her surroundings and with you. Be careful when observing this, if there are other men in the area then it may not be you that is making her comfortable! Also, the more sophisticated and classy a girl is the less likely they are to ever use this gesture. That is something to keep in mind because if you are truly looking for girls of the highest caliber, that means this gesture should always be an instant turn-off for you. The classiest girls will never widen their legs in public under any circumstances.
Her pupils dilate looking at you
Her pupils will dilate (grow larger) while looking at a person that she likes, and in turn will get smaller while looking at a person she does not. Keep in mind that lighting can greatly affect this. For instance, if you are outside when the sun is present her pupils may appear to be very small no matter how much she likes you, and in a dark night club her pupils may appear to be extremely dilated even if she has no attraction towards you. Bright lights make pupils shrink, while the absence of light will make them grow. This fact makes using pupil dilation tricky business as indicators of interest. The best method to use for testing this effectively is when you can view the change in her pupils when looking at you and then at someone else. If she looks at an obviously unattractive man, then looks back at you and you notice her pupils grow (while under the same lighting), this is a clear sign that she is feeling you.
She always smiles at you
This is a no-brainer. If she smiles at you when you make eye contact, get over there and talk to her. Smiling is not technically classified as body language in the traditional sense because smiles can either come from the conscious or the subconscious mind, while almost all other body language gestures are completely done subconsciously. Basically, that means that smiles can be easily “faked”. However, in many cases distinguishing a fake smile from a genuine smile of not a very difficult feat to accomplish. Furthermore, there is not much incentive for a girl to throw a fake smile at a man that she has not interest in anyway.
She laughs at all of your jokes
One of the best signs you can hope for is when a girl will laugh at just about every comical thing that you try to say. You may begin to think that you might actually be pretty funny, but in most cases you will be wrong. She just likes you a lot, and that’s even better! Of course there are some of you guys out there that genuinely are really funny, but for the average man this is a good indicator too look out for because a vast majority of girls display it when in the presence of men that they desire. The bottom line is this: if she is laughing at your comments much more frequently than most people usually do, chances are that she is just really digging you and wants to show it.
She flirts with you using touch
If she touches you multiple times while she is talking, like tapping you on the forearm when trying to make a point, touching your hair, feeling your muscles, or running her hand across your upper back, then remember to tell her what you like for breakfast so she knows what to cook in the morning. Most girls cringe at the though of touching men they are not in the least attractive to, so if a girl if touching you frequently or in any type of intimate fashion that is plainly obvious it simply means that she has a very high level of interest in you. Be cautious however, because this gesture is frequently used by promiscuous girls that are the type you won’t want to end up in a relationship with. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t used by normal girls as well, just that it should throw up a red flag and keep you on your guard until you can determine what type of girl you are dealing with.
She makes prolonged eye contact
If a girl is interested in you and finds you to be attractive, she may attempt to make eye contact with you and hold it for a longer period of time than is the norm, almost uncomfortably long by some standards. Before looking away, remember to smile at her. This will let her know that you are interested as well and are a nice guy. Following this, you may also notice her glance at you occasionally. After the second or third look it should become obvious to you that she wants you to talk to her, so it is your duty to get over there and give her what she wants. In situations like this success is almost guaranteed, so the only way you can lose is to choke and not approach her at all.
She flips her hair to get attention
If you notice a girl flip her hair (you know, the way all of the girls in shampoo and hair coloring commercials do) and immediately afterward glance your way, she is showing her interest in you and trying to get your attention focused on her by catching your eye. This is a good opportunity for you to make eye contact with her and wait for another indicator of interest such as any of the others that are described above. This gesture is fairly rare in contrast to most of the other open gestures, but it still exists so don’t be surprised if you notice it happen to you out of the blue every so often.
She mimics things that you do
Here is a fun trick to use when you want to find out if a girl is checking you out: Look at your watch, count to 3, then look at her. If she looks at her watch also, then she was checking you out. It is a natural human reaction to mimic the actions of someone that you are interested in. By looking at your watch, you will spark her curiosity and she will be wondering what you are waiting for, and with no other source to gather information from she will look at her own watch to try to at least determine the time of your expected event. You can also use your phone for this, but to a lesser effect.
Closed gestures: Signs she isn’t interested
She rolls her eyes when you talk
Whenever a girl that you are gaming rolls her eyes in a non-joking manner (meaning, without a smile) it is a sure indicator that she either is embarrassed by your presence, thinks that you aren’t worth her time, or just not in her league. By rolling her eyes she is attempting to display to everyone else in the area that she is not interested in you. If this happens to you, the best things to do is simply turn around and walk away. You have little (if any) chance of getting with her. Even in the rare case in which you can recover from embarrassing a girl in public, the large amount of effort that it would require is frankly just not worth it when you can just leave an approach another girl and start off fresh.
She crosses her arms around you
Crossing her arms is a tell-tale sign that she is either agitated, nervous, uncomfortable or just does not like you. When you see a girl display this gesture, it is time to change your strategy, and quick. However, this is definitely not a deal breaker, because you can easily get her to lower her arms back down with a bit of good game. When she crosses her arms, always make sure that your next move is something that you are certain she responds well to (particularly something you did previously and got a positive reaction from her) so you are guaranteed to lower her guard. This key to overcoming this closed gesture is to play it safe until her arms are lowered back down to her sides and she appears comfortable once again.
Her crossed legs point away
Crossing her legs is just as bad as crossing her arms, but can be much worse because once her legs are crossed she will most likely cross her arms as well. However, if her legs are crossed and pointing towards you (knee pointing in your direction), this means that she is simply nervous but has an interest in you, so it is a good thing as long as her arms are not crossed as well. On the other hand, if her knee points away from you, then you’re in trouble, and if her arms are crossed and her knee is pointing away things are even worse. However, you can easily get her to change her body language to displaying open gestures, as the act of switching which leg in on top when her legs are crossed is natural for girls and she will point her knee towards you the instant that you fix whatever is making her either irritated or uncomfortable.
She leans back away from you
The “lean back” is the most dreaded sign in all female body language. If she is leaning away from you and it is very noticeable, my advice is to forget her and move on to your next prospect. Even worse is the “sudden lean back” which occurs when you lean in towards her. If you lean in, and at that exact moment she quickly leans back away as if to maintain a fair distance between the two of you, this is a sign that she has no interest in you at all, and most likely never will. Only a very experienced (and lucky) man can warm up to a girl after noticing this type of behavior, so it is best to just move along. However, if you think you’ve got the skills then give it a try then go for it, because you quite literally have nothing to lose since she has no interest or attraction for you at all.
There you have it. You now know all of the basics when it comes to reading a girl’s body language and using it to your advantage.
As I mentioned earlier, this is a topic that I go into much more detail with my Black Book, so if you want to really perfect the art of using body language go read all of the incredible tricks that I put into the book.
The Player’s Black Book