Get out of your comfort zone
Knowing how to get out of your comfort zone is one of the most underrated concepts in seduction.
Going beyond what you are comfortable doing is the key ingredient to improving yourself and stepping your game up to the next level.
You don’t make progress on familiar ground.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone can be a daunting task, which highlights to fact that so many guys never seem to be able to break out of it at all.
Some dudes never even dare try.
Everything from confidence building, conversation training, approaching women, and even how you improve your wardrobe, these all rely on you having what it takes to get out of your comfort zone in order for them to work.
By forcing you into uncomfortable territory, these techniques condition you to be able to handle situations that you previously could not, and this is the very process that makes your game improve.
Once you become comfortable using a particular strategy, you move on to something more advanced that you are not yet acclimated to.
Thus, the cycle continues and you get better.
In reality, without the changes that come about from stepping outside of your comfort zone, improving your game (and yourself overall) would be substantially harder to do.
For some perhaps even impossible.
This is why you should never take this underrated concept for granted.
Even though it is working behind the scenes, it’s still imperatively vital to your success with girls.
Furthermore, now that you know just how important it is you can begin to deliberately look for ways to place yourself into uncomfortable situations to streamline your learning process.
Do that and you will achieve your goals far quicker than you otherwise would. I’m really talking about long-term goals here, if your goal is to just get a girl tonight (or anything regarding instant gratification), then you should use some secret methods to get what you want.
For example, I’ve personally begun to set unusual and extremely difficult goals for myself when I go out.
I treat it like a game that I’m playing and have fun with it, but also take it seriously enough to know that reaching my goal is still my main priority.
That part is totally unnecessary, but I’m just stubborn.
For example, the other day I went to the beach with the goal in my mind that I would walk up to the hottest girl on the sand and get her to rub me down with lotion.
After that, I would proceed to get the next 4 runner-ups to do the same thing.
Cold approaching the top 5 girls on a major beach and asking them to do something out of the ordinary can be a daunting task, even for someone like me.
That is exactly why I chose that as my exercise.
Sure, I succeeded in conquering my challenge which felt great. What I did not succeed in doing was improving on my tan.
5 layers of SPF 8 can really add up quick.
Another example is that I’ll try to go out to a local club with the goal of getting 10 telephone numbers.
No big deal right?
Well, the catch was that I would only permit myself to count numbers from girls that I have been introduced to by their own male friends.
Honestly, this one didn’t really place me out of my own comfort zone, but using other men who are strangers as a tool in your game is a very advanced strategy, so it still proved to be a good challenge.
I’m sure most up-and-coming players would be completely out of their comfort zone while doing this, as most of you probably don’t use other guys to your advantage at all yet.
I’m certain that the things that make each individual get out of your comfort zone will vary much from person to person.
If you want to use this strategy to amplify your self improvement, the first step is to properly identify the particular things that you feel the most uncomfortable doing while socializing.
After you know what they are, those are the things that you need to start getting out there and doing.
Once you get out of your comfort zone, you will begin to improve.
The old saying “what doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger” definitely rings true when it comes to this.
Even though you are probably going to be very uneasy while taking that very first step and facing your fear, after you get into the groove of things you will feel totally empowered.
You will feel like you can face anything and remove all negative traits from your personality.
That is because you actually can, if you’ve got what it takes to stare your fears in the face and challenge them head on.
Even if you do not fully succeed at achieving the particular goal that you have set for yourself, the simple act of trying is what is the most important thing.
Just trying to do something that you feel uneasy about will make you get out of your comfort zone, so whether you succeed or not won’t make that much of a difference.
You will still walk away from the situation knowing that you no longer have to fear it, and have the ability to handle it in the future if you ever need to (and you probably will).
I highly encourage all of you to give this a shot, there really is no way to fully describe the feeling that you have just after finally conquering one of your major fears.
Especially when you know that you had what it took to just man up and face it all along.
Good luck out there, and remember to have fun with whatever you try.
Just like with huge roller coasters; some of the most scary things in life are also the most exhilarating.
You just never know until you try.
I put my favorite method for blasting out of your comfort zone into my Black Book. It works so well that you won’t feel awkward at all, and you success rate with girls will skyrocket.
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