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5 steps to get a girl’s phone number


Get a girl’s phone number

When you get a girl’s phone number it is a major milestone in your progress with her. It opens up many options.

Once you get it, you’re on to the next level.

If you don’t you’re still stuck at the start.

This is one of the oldest tricks in the book, and – almost – every guy in the world has tried to get a girl’s phone number at least once during his life.

There have been countless conversations in bars between guys trying to do it and countless dollars spent by frustrated men looking for the “magic trick” to doing it easily.

Luckily, all of the information you will ever need to know to get a girl’s phone number is in this step-by-step guide, for free!

We’ve done the work for you and separated it into five easy steps that will work for anyone.

Yes, that include you.

Getting a woman’s number is just the first step out of many on the road to a successful hook up or relationship, but it all starts here. No number, then no date, so no sex or girlfriend.

You’ve got to walk before you can run and you’ve got to know how to approach and get a number before you get laid.

Learn the basics here and reap the rewards later!

1. Make your mind ready

There is an old saying that goes, “Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.”

Set yourself up for success and don’t fall behind before you even start talking to the girls.

The most important thing for you to have straight is your mindset. You can’t fake this part, as it shows in your actions.

Don’t try and think like an alpha male, be an alpha male! Assume that the girl wants you more than anything and that she’s just waiting for you to approach her.

Secondly, have fun and enjoy yourself!

If you’re stressed, you will never succeed. Don’t be focused on whether or not she will like you, focus on whether or not you will like her!

Putting her on a pedestal in your mind will give yourself a huge mental roadblock before you even begin talking to her.

If she knows that you’re obsessing over her, she’ll figure that if she can get you drooling over her, she can at least get someone much better interested!

Place value on yourself above everything else, for you are the important one. There are millions of girls out there better than the one you’re going to talk to, but there will only ever be one you!

You should be the one on your pedestal, not her.

Once you have your mind right and are ready to have fun, you’ve got all the tools you need for a successful approach! You can get a girl’s phone number easily when you are in the right frame of mind.

Always look your best and feel your best.

You can’t change your natural appearance, and that doesn’t matter. Work with what you have, because you can clean yourself up and dress nicely.

When you look your best, you feel your best.

Positive energy is the most important ingredient of a pick-up, so help yourself all you can!

2. Make yourself known

Your chances of success are much higher if she’s noticed you before you approach, so trying to make eye contact and smile.

This is the time for action!

Contrary to popular belief, the pick up starts before you ever approach a girl.

When you first spot an attractive girl, you shouldn’t wait to make your move. When you’re first starting out, it’s best to use the “three second rule,” and approach within three seconds of spotting the girl that you like.

This gives you no time to talk yourself out of the approach and makes it spontaneous, a necessary ingredient for meeting girls.

Note: Don’t be the guy who follows her around for hours, this will only get you picked-up on her creep radar!

It all begins when you spot the girl.

When you see her, start warming her up to your approach immediately!

The two most important things to do in this stage are to smile and make eye contact.

When someone smiles at you, you hardly ever fail to smile back. A smile always makes anyone’s day better, so give her a grin!

This breaks the ice perfectly and she is naturally inclined to respond positively to you. While you’re smiling, be sure and make proper eye contact.

If she holds the eye contact, it’s a sure sign that she is interested! Not making eye contact before (and during) your approach is a sign of insecurity, so do it.

You’re mission to get a girl’s phone number has already started!

3. Make yourself heard

Once you’ve successfully broken the non-verbal ice, it’s time to finally approach.

This is where almost all men have a horrible time and make most of their mistakes.

Guys come to websites by the millions every day looking for the one “Holy Grail” opener that will melt any girl’s heart and panties the instant you meet them.

Needless to say, they’re only wasting their time and setting themselves up for disappointment, because they don’t know a big secret.

As a matter of fact, we’ll even let you in on this secret:

The opener you use doesn’t matter at all!

Over 90% of communication is non-verbal, your body language, the way you say things, and the confidence behind the words you speak are infinitely more important than the words themselves.

The only purpose of an opener is to get your foot into the door and start a conversation.

As far as I’m concerned, there are only two openers; ones that get you into a conversation and ones that don’t.

Don’t use a corny pick-up line, keep things simple!

There is no opener that will win you a girl by itself, but stupid things can get you blown out immediately.

Walk confidently, speak loudly and game with conviction! This will get you further than any “line” the history.

Use a time constraint when you begin talking to the girl, as you don’t want her to think that you’re going to hang around bugging her forever (there’s an example of this below).

There are many types of openers, so choose whatever you feel works best with you:

Opinion Openers – Ask a girl’s opinion on something to get you into conversation.

Example: “Hey! I’ve gotta get going quick, but I need a female’s opinion on something. I’m buying a gift for my sister’s birthday party; do girls hate gift cards as much as men do?”

Basic Openers – Introduce yourself to her and make an observation on the surroundings or an offer to do something fun, this is the quickest method of initiating conversation.

Example: “Hey! I can see you’re busy working on your tan, but do you wanna play some volleyball? We need a fourth player, you can be on my team.”

Inviting her to participate in a fun game is a FAR better way to get a girl’s phone number than using a dumb pick up line.

When opening, always enter with a higher energy level than there was before you arrived.

Be enthusiastic, no one likes a boring dude!

4. Make yourself matter

This is where you actually talk with a girl and the group she is in.

If she’s in a group, don’t ignore them.

In fact, give more attention to the girl’s friends than the actual girl that you’re interested in. Without the approval of her friends, you’ll get nowhere.

Don’t stress out about the actual conversation.

Girls think emotionally, unlike men.

They respond to feelings. Girls become attracted to a man because of how he makes her feel, not what he says to her.

Focus the conversation on the girl, since girls love to talk – especially about themselves – this should be no problem. Just cherry pick key words out of her statements and use them to branch off into other topics when you’re out of things to say.

Don’t talk badly about yourself or your job and never discuss problems with her. Leave anything negative out of the conversation.

Display strong body language; keep your hands out of your pockets at all times and do not stare at the ground!

The most important thing to remember is that you need to be playful! Girls love a guy who is at ease around them and who is able to make them smile and enjoy themselves.

Don’t be afraid to touch her either.

Play around with her and push her gently when she says something stupid, or tap her on arm while you’re making gestures that go along with conversation.

Playful flirting like this is a must!

5. Make yourself a winner

Once you’ve opened, gained the approval of her friends, and have talked with the girl for a few minutes, she will be interested and attracted to you if you’ve done everything right to this point.

When she starts laughing, playfully touching you back, and doing stuff like playing with her hair or asking questions about you, it’s time to make your move.

This is when the girl is into you, so take advantage of your good work!

Never leave without attempting to either getting a number or arranging a date.

You’ve got nothing to lose, and girls will give out their number if you seem like a decent guy, as no one can pass complete judgment on a person based on one short conversation.

I’m going to throw a shocking guideline at you now:

Never ask for a girl’s number!

That’s right, I said to never ask for a girl’s number. When you ask, you give her the chance to dismiss you and you put the power in her hands.

Instead of asking and surrendering control of the interaction, get a girl’s phone number by TELLING instead of asking.

Examples of this are shown below.

If you feel that she is interested enough for a date, set on up one the spot before you leave. If you want to get a girl’s phone number and arrange things later, you can do that also.

This is the final part of the approach, and the easiest if you’ve done your work so far.

Remember, set up a date and get digits in a confident, in-control manner.


“I’ve enjoyed our conversation, but I have to go meet some friends. Let’s continue it later. Would you prefer to get coffee or try out the sushi place downtown?”
“It’s been fun talking with you, we should continue this conversation. Put your number in here for me *hand her your phone*. “

These examples illustrate the right way to close a solid interaction; you’re assuming that she will say yes and not giving her the chance to say no.

Girls really love a man who can take control like that as well as display so much confidence that he just assumes the number is his for the taking.

Do it like that and you win every time.

If you follow those five steps, you’ll be able to get a girl’s phone number nearly every time you approach.

No one gets numbers all the time, so don’t be discouraged if you slip up a couple of times. It happens to us all, myself included.

Even with perfect game, there are still variables out of your control.

All you can truly control is yourself, so go out, have a blast and get some phone numbers!

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