Knowing where to go and what to do on a first date, as well as how to deal with relationships, is crucial if you want to truly be successful. In this section you will learn all about dating, long and short term.
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Conversation Tips - Learn the necessary conversation techniques and become great at talking to women. Learn what to say to women and how to say it in many critical situations.
Flirting Tips - It is vital for any player to know how to flirt with women if he wants to pick them up. Learn all of the best flirting tips to improve your skills at flirting with women.
Inner Game Tips - Learn tips that will teach you how to be confident around women and how to believe in yourself. An often overlooked, yet very important aspect of the game.
Outer Game Tips - These tips are for learning how to act around women, and can teach you what to do to make women want you. Learn how to behave around women.
Lifestyle Tips - The way you live your everyday life has a greater impact on relationships with women than you think! These tips will help you lead a lifestyle women are drawn to.
Dating Tips - Use this section to master the art of dealing with relationships, how to handle the first date, where to go on a date, and many other great strategies for dating women.
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The Dating Tips...
Go for the gold
The most frustrating thing possible is to settle for less than you truly want. When you look for a woman, your standards should be high! Don't let a lack of success deter you from your goal and force you to settle for an average woman. Instead, work harder and accept nothing less than what you deserve, the best. You will never be able to enjoy what you have, because it's not what you aimed for in the first place. You will never be content, and that is the ultimate defeat. Remember, it is always better to aim high and miss than to aim lower and reach your mark. - GoinPhoenix
Focus on right now
Stop thinking about defining a relationship with her, and just focus on being fun, flirtatious, and playful. You should never worry about `getting` a chick or being her future boyfriend. Just enjoy flirting with her in the moment, with no concerns about where the relationship stands or where it may be going. As a result, girls will text and call you constantly. Why? It`s because you do not come with `strings attached`. This makes you not needy, and fun to be with, as you bring no ultimatums or responsibilities to the table. And you do that by focusing on the interaction between you two only, without ever thinking about the end result. There IS NO end result. It`s always about the NOW, not the LATER. - Player87
Rapport
Rapport is very important but at the same time does not have to be extremely complicated. The reason that rapport is so important is that you have to establish a true connection with a girl to ensure that there is a foundation in place to build the rest of your game upon (for both physical escalation and future dates). If it's not in place, you'll encounter a lot of problems with last-minute resistance and flaking, because she will think of you as more of a stranger than someone that she shares a emotional bond with. Without rapport, there is no success. - Player87
Be prepared
Your ultimate goal when you go out on a date with a girl is to get her back to your place, so before you go out to meet her or pick her up it is always a good idea to get your crib prepared for her to be there. Make sure to have everything clean and neat, vacuum your carpet, get all dirty dishes out of the sink, take the trash out if it is overflowing, put everything in it's proper place and by all means hide any porno that you have somewhere where she will NEVER come across it :) It's also a good idea to have a slow jams cd in your stereo so that you can put it on easily when the two of you arrive without having to fumble through your cd case and waste a bunch of good foreplay time. If you like old school stuff some good music to use is Marvin Gaye, New Edition or Teddy Pendergrass. If you like newer stuff then Jamie Foxx, 112 or Jagged Edge will get the job done nicely. You will also want to set up the lighting in your place before you leave in order to set an automatically cozy and sexual atmosphere the moment you walk in the door with her. The best way to do this is to have at least a few lamps in your crib that either fade to your liking or have pre-set low, medium and high settings. When you leave, put the lamps on the lowest possible setting so they only light up the immediate area around them without lighting up the entire room. The combination of the lights and music creates the perfect setting for things to go exactly the way you want them to, and you and her will be "bumpin' uglies" in no time.
56 seconds, 57, 58, 59... DONE
Ever have the problem of ejaculating too early while having sex? If so, try this little trick I've found to be very effective in stopping this embarrassing event from happening: While your having sex and you begin to feel like your about to become a one minute man, count silently from 1 to 100, and when you finish start back at 1 again. This effectively takes your mind off sex, which makes you not as aroused. For more tips and secrets like this one, have a look at Robert Irwin's Sexual Mastery, which contains recent scientific and clinical research that has revealed truly new and powerful information and techniques for increasing your (and your partner's) sexual performance and enjoyment.
Damn, I think that I forgot my...
After having a good date with a girl and you are back at her place, try to leave something behind that will remind her of you. Leaving a shirt behind is what I recommend, because it will probably smell like your cologne and the smell will make her think of you. This also gives you an excuse to see her again. When she calls to tell you that you've forgotten something, act like it is no big deal and say that you'll pick it up next time you get together.
Awww, he's so romantic!
After you go on a date with a woman you are very interested in, and if you feel that everything on your date went very well, send flowers to her workplace. Women love to show off when a guy they are dating does something romantic for them, and their work is the absolute best place for them to show off. Most women are either good friends or highly competitive with their female co-workers, which is a win-win situation for them when they receive a gift while at work. Chances are she will give you a call the moment she gets the flowers, try it. To balance out the equation and make it seem like you aren't a needy guy, you can joking act like "Aww no, I meant to send those to someone else!" Say it with a smile and you are as good as gold. Also, only do this once, as making a habit out of spoiling a woman will lead to her either taking advantage of you or expecting you to continue that behavior forever.
Clever ideas, don't you just love 'em
When you want to give a gift to a girl, try this little trick: Tape a note to the glovebox in your car that says "Open me" and put the gift inside (works well with a single rose). Don't say anything about it once you pick her up and you are riding along in the car, let her find it for herself. Remember to buy some rubbers while you are getting the rose, your gonna need them. This tip follows the same rule as the one posted above: it's single serving and should only be done once. In addition, never use both of these tips back-to-back!
Here, eat this :)
Feed her chocolate! You might not know it, but chocolate is a mild aphrodisiac. This means that chocolate triggers emotions in our mind related to love and attraction. For instance, if a woman is thinking about you while she is eating a hershey's bar, she will feel more attracted to you than she normally would. With this in mind, try to feed her chocolate while you are with her. The best way to accomplish this is: Stop at a gas station to fill up on gas, and when you go inside to pay (don't use credit card outside) come back out with a candy bar and say "I thought you might like this, but if you don't want it I'll eat it".
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