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If you're anything like me, you've had your fair share of
strike-outs with women.
I mean, let's face it -- you can't win them all!
But when you do get rejected, a lot of guys will often think...
"She must not have been attracted to me. I must be UGLY!"
Don't fret, that's a common insecurity that everyone (women and
men) share. We're always on edge, wondering if we're good looking
enough to get the women that we like.
Well, don't worry, because I've got a secret I'm going to share
with you.
Ready?
Here it comes...
Looks Aren't That Important!!!
Notice I didn't say looks AREN'T important. I said looks aren't
THAT important.
There's a difference.
Looks are important to an extent, but not as important as you may
think. Most women have a lot of leeway in what they find
attractive in a man, and this can be used to your advantage.
Many guys think girls look at men the way men look at women. When
a man looks at a woman, he judges whether or not he's attracted to
her based on her looks. If she's overweight, has the wrong hair
color, if her breasts are too small, if her nose is too big...
whatever it may be, the man may dismiss her completely, regardless
of whether or not she's a really great girl.
Because men look at women that way, it's natural for men to assume
that's how women appraise us.
This belief is both true, but at the same time misleading.
Women do take looks into account, but in the overall scheme of
things, to women, looks play a smaller role in deciding whether
they'll sleep with you than it does when it comes to men deciding
if they'll sleep with a woman.
Let me give you an example from my life for instance. I used to
date a girl I was madly in love with. But because I was slightly
overweight, I was always depressed, feeling I didn't deserve a girl
like her. This bad attitude of mine eventually ended up driving
her away.
But we stayed friends, and as time went on, she met another guy
that she fell in love with. Eventually, I went to visit her and
met her new beau, and to my surprise, I discovered this guy was 10x
fatter than I ever was! Seriously, he had a good 100 pounds on me.
The difference was, even though he was fatter and not as good
looking as I was, he didn't care. He allowed his good traits to
shine, whereas I allowed myself to dwell on my bad qualities. And
this great girl that I had in my life was attracted to those great
qualities and easily overlooked his shortcomings in the looks
department.
Remember that women are emotional creatures by nature. They are
more in-tune with how they feel and therefore more susceptible to
their emotions.
What does this mean?
That women may immediately be attracted to a good looking guy
because he makes her FEEL GOOD right away. But if that same good
looking guy is mean, or dumb, or turns her off in other ways and
makes her feel bad feelings, she may decide she really isn't
attracted to him at all.
Also, factor in that not all women are attracted to the same type
of guy. Just like all men aren't attracted to the same type of
women. Some women may prefer short men, or men with long hair, or
fat men, etc.
It comes down to this: You don't know WHAT physical type a woman
is going to be attracted to. So approach her anyway and find out
if you're the one.
If you're wondering just how, exactly, you can approach a woman, be
sure to check out my book The Art Of Approaching. In it, I give
easy to follow strategies on how to meet any woman, any time,
anywhere -- and you don't need to be male-model-good-looking for it
to work! To check out my book click below now:
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Trust me, you'll be glad you did.
To your success,
Joseph Matthews
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