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Is She Just Not Attracted To You?
by Matthew Whiting
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So now that you know what women truly want, imagine this
all-too-common scenario. You've known Jane all your life. She has
been that one consistent bright light, and you have always harbored
a secret crush on her.
Throughout grammar school and college you kept things a secret, but
once you both graduated, you decided it was time to make your move.
You then haphazardly told her one evening after hanging out, "Jane,
I really want to date you. I think you're hot. Do you feel the
same?"
Her reply? "Oh John! We're just friends!"
If this has ever happened to you, you will still remember how
devastating and upsetting those words were and how crushed you
felt.
So the million-dollar question is: can friends become lovers? Can
you truly capture the attention of a girl you already know and
like, and transform that friendly vibe into passion?
Absolutely!
You must, however, approach the situation with a little finesse and
strategy. It takes a lot of effort to turn a woman's head 180
degrees. In some cases, it may not be able to be done, but in
others there is real hope for turning friendship into passion.
KEY STRATEGIES FOR TURNING FRIENDS INTO LOVERS
The most important key for transforming a friend into a lover is
making her realize on her own that you are actually a lusty and
attractive male specimen.
How do you do this? Believe it or not, the absolute best way is to
date other women, preferably attractive women if you are able.
Women talk all the time among themselves, and if all of her friends
talk about what a great guy you are and see you as a potential
date, she won't help but be able to see you as one, too.
The key here is to be honest with the women you're dating and keep
open relationships with them. Tell them that you're simply
interested in dating but not anything too serious. You have to be
very careful with this strategy, as the potential for making a mess
of it is quite high.
You need to come across as a charismatic and fun guy who is nice to
be around as well as polite and chivalrous. You don't want to get a
reputation that you are a sleaze that is wantonly hitting on every
single woman. This is especially important if you have your heart
set on winning your female friend.
In addition, please don't sleep with every single one of the women
that you date whatever you do. This is a huge mistake! Not only is
that a bad idea emotionally, but with all the diseases out there,
it is a huge health risk. Be a gentleman, and don't do anything
that will give your friend the impression that you're a player,
because then she will be too scared to get involved with you. Such
a reputation could destroy your chances with her. Instead, you
want to wear the label of an attractive, fun, and enticing male
whom other women find attractive.
For this strategy to be successful, you have to avoid uncomfortable
break-ups that could lead to rumors and gossip about your behavior.
By being totally honest and making sure everyone knows that you
and the women you are with are "casually dating," you'll avoid
getting the wrong reputation.
Grooming is another important component of attraction. If you
dress casually around the girl you are interested in simply because
you are "friends," try spicing things up a bit. Dress to impress
whenever you can. Avoid the unkempt look and even consider working
out a bit. If you are in good shape, you might even find an
occasion to take your top off and incite a bit of passion in your
friend. The key is to be as attractive as you can be so that she
soon "gets" how desirable you really are.
You should also be genuinely nice and talk with your friend's
female friends as much as possible. You want to look good in their
eyes, because nine times out of ten, friends attempt to set up
other friends. After a while your intended might start receiving
comments from her friends like, "Why aren't you dating John? He's
so hot and such a nice guy!" She'll start to question your
relationship as "just friends" and will start asking herself the
very same questions.
BREAKING THE NEWS
At some point, if things don't progress naturally, you'll want to
at least pass along the message that you are interested in more
than just friendship status. So how do you do that without making a
fool of yourself?
The best way to do this is gently and inconspicuously. If you can,
frame it as a joke or an observation that she can respond to. Try
this comment: "Every time my buddies see us together, they're like,
'You guys should be a couple.'" Leave it there and wait for her to
respond. Or, if you often party with your friend, do this the next
time you're drinking together. Tell her that it must just be the
alcohol because you've got this crazy urge to kiss her. Do this
with a grin. She can either laugh and bounce it off as a joke, or
she can lean forward and make your dream come true.
Whatever you do, avoid ultimatums such as "Love me or leave me!"
You'll scare her off without hesitation. Avoid confessing your
emotions directly; rather, say something like, "It's weird to spend
this much time with you, because it almost feels like you're my
girlfriend." Let her respond. You might be surprised to find out
that she's been thinking the same thing. In fact, many guys find
out that their girl "friend" is much more interested in just
friendship. It never hurts to ask.
If she confesses that she's felt the same way, let her know what it
is about her that has changed your feelings. Let her know how
valuable your friendship is to you and reassure her that you won't
lose it by becoming more. Often, women hesitate to date a friend
because they're worried of losing the friendship. By getting her
fear out in the open, she'll be able to realize that it isn't true.
WHAT TO DO IF SHE SAYS NO
If she tells you that she isn't interested, then you probably won't
be able to change her mind. Realize that people don't have control
of their feelings, and that they either feel something or they
don't.
If she doesn't want to get romantically involved, that's that.
Accept it and move on. Instead of beating yourself up about it,
your best bet in the long run may be to reduce the amount of time
the two of you spend together so you can start living your life and
finding someone who will share your passion and interest.
Don't act too disappointed, or she'll realize just how much that
question meant to you. When feelings are lopsided on a friendship,
that friendship often dies. Stay cool and continue to act just the
same way you did before you mentioned it. Don't change your
behavior, no matter how embarrassed you feel. If you want to keep
this girl in your life as a friend, you have to remain friends no
matter what. And that's not settling for second best: it's keeping
a good thing going.
Matthew Whiting is a professional writer specializing in dating and
relationship advice. He has extensive experience in training men
to maximize their seduction potential and ability to interact with
women successfully. He is considered by many to be an expert in
his field with his frank and forthright approach. He is best known
for his work in "How to Be Irresistible to Women," which is part of
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