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So you're tired of being alone and tired of being rejected? Tired
of asking women for their phone numbers and being given
If you truly want to get more phone numbers and more dates, then
you have to make a change in how you approach the whole dating
thing. It's not that you've been a failure; it's just that your
past techniques haven't worked very well for you.
In fact, I want you to banish the word "failure" from your
vocabulary. It's more that you haven't known the best approach for
successfully getting a woman's phone number ... until now.
I am going to show you the best and most successful methods for
getting phone numbers from women in a way that will flatter and
charm them like never before. Here are my top five tips.
1. Be non-threatening.
The first and foremost thing I want you to remember is that you
want to come across as non-threatening and casual.
You need to take your time to demonstrate that you are truly
interested in the young lady that you have just met, and make sure
that she is interested in you before you ask her out again or ask
for her phone number.
This isn't as hard as you might think. If she's been giving you
subtle hints that she isn't interested, then you can save yourself
and her a lot of embarrassment by not asking for her phone number.
In addition, you don't want to come across as a desperate stalker.
Women are scared of desperate men, and nothing spells desperation
faster than a man who aggressively asks for a number or a date.
If she's not open to sharing her number, consider agreeing to meet
at the same place again at a designated time. This meeting will
give you a chance to see each other again, but in a non-threatening
way. This way you have indicated your interest without coming
across as pushy, and you have left the chance of a meeting in her
By the way, if you think that giving a woman your phone number is
sure to keep you in contact, you're wrong. Women have been trained
to wait for men to call them, not the other way around. If you
give her your number, she'll think that you're not keen, and
there's no way she'll make the first move. Either get her number
or maximize your chances of bumping into her again by asking if
she's going to be here again next weekend, or something to that
2. Have real conversation.
The second point I want you to consider is that having a real
conversation about something she is interested in will build her
interest in you. I mean, consider this. Why would she want to give
you her number if she has no reason to even want to talk to you?
Make conversation according to where you've met her, such as the
club, a bar, a bookstore, or a restaurant. Tailor your conversation
to fit the surroundings. For example, if you met her at the
bookstore, you might want to talk about a good book you have read
recently. If you are at a club, you might talk about your favorite
clubs or favorite music.
If this is a person you would like to talk to and get to know
better, you need treat the situation accordingly. Be open and
honest with her about some quality that you admire and steer clear
of goofy pickup lines. Pickup lines hardly EVER work. In fact, they
often provide a woman with a convenient excuse to reject you.
3. Ask for her email.
Yes, I'm totally and completely serious about this one. It works
for two reasons.
For one, it's non-threatening, which, as we mentioned before, is
important. If a girl gets your email and decides later that she
doesn't really want to talk to you, she can just ignore any
incoming messages. This gives her a sense of security, so she'll be
more willing to give it to you.
The other reason why this method works is because it will often
lead to you getting her phone number as well. Here's how it works:
You ask for her email and she says yes. Then, as she is writing
down her email address, you say, "By the way, can you jot your
number down, too?" Most times she will write her number on the
paper, too. It's psychological: she has already said yes to writing
down her email, so it just seems logical to add the phone number.
4. Be prepared.
Just like the Scout motto, you should always be prepared. If you
want to get phone numbers, then you need to have a way of
You can carry a pen and paper with you, or you may choose to enter
numbers directly in your cell phone or Palm Pilot. Either way, you
should always have something with you. Since most people have cell
phones nowadays, I would recommend that you use your cell phone.
However, if you do carry a pen and paper, think of getting
something classy that women will remark on. If you carry a broken
stub and a piece of paper that's been scribbled on and folded up,
you'll give her the impression that you're a slob. A pocket
notebook in a single, bold color (avoid any cover with an image,
like those with cars or sexy women on them) is good. An expensive
pen will also impress her.
Make sure that you are always open to opportunities to ask a girl
for her number. You may miss these opportunities if you are not
prepared and paying attention. A lot of guys spend a whole evening
talking to a woman in a bar, then when she excuses herself to go to
the bathroom, they never see her again. Get her number before she
leaves. It sounds simple, but a lot of guys forget.
5. Just do it.
Don't be embarrassed if you're nervous. We've all got a fear of
rejection that holds us back when it comes to asking for dates and
numbers. My best advice is to just get out there and do it. What's
the worst that can happen? You might get told no. So what? A few
women will turn down even the best player out there, but you will
still have a better chance than if you never asked anyone.
It's not rocket science. If you want more numbers, start asking for
more numbers! Most women like to be asked for their phone number
anyway. They see it as a compliment. So if you think of it that
way, you are increasing your chances of a date as well as making
someone's day. Sounds great, huh?
In addition, here are a few more tips that you may find useful.
As you are writing down her number, ask her to repeat it. Not only
will this keep you from writing down the wrong number, but it will
clue you in if she is giving you the wrong number. For instance, if
she stumbles or gives you a different number than the first one,
you know she is giving you a phony number, and you can simply not
bother to call.
When you're talking to her, make eye contact, smile, and act
interested. This will prove to her that you are indeed interested
in pursuing a relationship and that you want to take things a step
Remember to keep the eye contact subtle. If you leer at her, she
will get frightened. Also, try and be genuine. As I have said
before, women respond well to genuine men.
Keep alert to her body language. If you really pay attention, you
can tell if she's interested or if she's waiting for an opportunity
to get away from you. If she keeps looking at her watch or looks at
her friends with a bored look on her face, it's pretty likely that
she's simply not interested. If that's the case, simply move on and
look for someone else. There are plenty of other women out there
that are more deserving of your attention.
Getting numbers and more dates isn't that hard if you have the
right attitude. It's mostly a case of having the courage to
approach a woman. If you can do that, you are half way there. It
just takes patience and a little planning.
You should use the times that women turn you down as feedback to
adjust your game. Remember: you can't win if you don't play. So
keep collecting those numbers, because your dream girl is only a
phone call away.
Just take your courage in your hands and ask!
About the author:
Matthew Whiting is a professional writer specializing in dating and
relationship advice. He has extensive experience in training men
to maximize their seduction potential and ability to interact with
women successfully. He is considered by many to be an expert in
his field with his frank and forthright approach. He is best known
for his work in "How to Be Irresistible to Women," which is part of
the 000Relationships network.
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