The Mindset of a PUA - Handling Approach Anxiety
AA is probably the most challenging issue faced by many guys. If the issue is resolved, i guarantee you, your results will increase TEN-FOLD, regardless of what you say after you open. Why? Its simple mathematics, the more you shoot, the more you score. I read somewhere that one of your goals in seduction should be to ' not eliminate rejection, but to get OVER rejection.' The way to get over rejection is in your control, this deals with Inner Game.
When tackling AA in the field, you have to bear in mind, this fear. So don't worry about what you are going to say afterwards, once you have ran your opener, you have already done your job. Well Done, you are one step closer. Here is a saying of mine:
'Every approach you attempt, regardless of the outcome, you have taken one step closer to becoming a PUA!'
Remember that! When approaching girls, that girl named Amanda, the sexy legs, the rack, its not important. The girl is merely a sub-game, in the overall game of seduction. The point in which you have conquered AA, is the point where your thoughts and feelings prior to the approach is not affected by the outcome of your approach. This is hard, i know.
The mindset of ' Think Fun, not Outcome' is a powerful one, and is the perfect mindset that conquers AA. So if your feeling nervous, before an approach. How do you get happy/fun? Think happy/fun thoughts. Yes its simple, don't ever complicate things. Instead of filling up your mind with negative thoughts or any other thoughts stopping you from approaching, is to focus on the girl's attractive features. Instead of thinking, what shall i open with? Instead think,' how hot it would be if she had her legs wrapped around you'. Get me? Just like a robot, just program yourself in a fun mindset with no emotional attachment to the outcome, and attempt to have fun conversation with the women you approach.
I would stare at the girl, and think how should i approach her, and then chastise myself afterwards, for not approaching. What happens next? This lowers your self-esteem for the next HB you see, and you continue down a depressing and downward spiral.
The key to success is ACTION. Instead of trying to figure out the best way to approach, then start sarging, is useless. There is no 'secret formula' that loosens the pants of a woman!
Seduction is a learning process, every approach leads to an outcome that you benefit from. Success or Feedback. If you succeed, bear in mind what you done well in the approach. If not, you have gained experience and think where things may gone wrong, and implement this acquired knowledge in your next approach. Simple isn't it?
Finally, i would like to mention that there is no such thing as perfection. Don't think you have to have conquered all your inner game issues, and honed down your outer game, before you start approaching. I'm speaking to you keyboard-jockers. Perfection does not exist, What is Perfection? The point at which you don't experience rejection? Well, that's impossible.
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