I’m afraid to approach women
Being afraid to approach women is one of the most challenging issues faced by many guys.
If the issue is resolved, I guarantee your results will increase TEN-FOLD, regardless of what you say after you approach.
Its simple mathematics; the more you shoot, the more you score.
I read somewhere that one of your goals in seduction should be to not eliminate rejection, but to get OVER rejection.
The way to get over rejection is in your control, it’s all inside of your head.
When tackling your fear of approaching girls in the field, you have to bear in mind, this is about getting over your fear, nothing more. So don’t worry about what you are going to say afterwards, once you have approached and made contact you have already done your job.
Well done, you’re one step closer.
Here is a saying of mine:
“Every approach you attempt, regardless of the outcome, you have taken one step closer to becoming the person you truly want to be!”
Remember that! When approaching girls their sexy legs, big rack, pretty face; none of that is important.
The girl is merely a sub-game in the overall game of seduction, and right now you are practicing.
The point when you know that you’ve conquered your fear and are no longer afraid to approach women is when your thoughts and feelings prior to the approach are no longer affected by the outcome of your approach.
This is hard, I know.
The mindset of ‘ think fun, not outcome’ is a powerful one, and is the perfect mindset that conquers the fear to approach.
So if you’re feeling nervous before you approach a hot girl, put yourself there in that frame of mind.
I’m not Peter Pan, but yes I’m telling you to think happy and fun thoughts.
Yes it’s simple, don’t ever complicate things.
Instead of filling up your mind with hesitant thoughts or anything else that is stopping you from approaching, try to focus on the girl’s attractive features that made you want to approach in the first place, and put yourself into that fantasy with her.
Rather than thinking, “what shall i open with?” Instead think, “how hot it would be if she had her legs wrapped around me?”
Just like a robot, program yourself into a fun mindset with no emotional attachment to the outcome, and attempt to have fun conversations with the girls you approach.
I know this stuff works because I’ve been there.
I would stare at a hot girl and think about how I should approach her, then talk myself out of it because I was afraid to approach women and end up chastising myself afterwards for not having the balls to approach her at all.
When you do that, what happens next?
This lowers your self-esteem for the next hot girl you see, and you continue down a depressing and downward spiral.
The key to success is ACTION.
Trying to figure out the best way to approach women is useless.
There is no “secret formula” that loosens the pants of a girl and guarantees you will go home with her number!
Seduction is a learning process. Every approach leads to an outcome that you benefit from: success or feedback.
If you succeed, bear in mind what you’ve done well in the approach.
If not, you’ve gained experience and can remember where things went wrong, then implement this acquired knowledge into your next approach.
Simple, isn’t it?
Finally, I would like to mention that there is no such thing as perfection.
Don’t think you have to conquer all your inner game issues and hone your outer game before you start approaching.
Perfection does not exist.
What is Perfection? The point at which you don’t experience rejection?
Well, that’s impossible. Even the greatest seducers on the planet still get rejected.
The only difference is they don’t let it stop them.
If you get yourself into thinking that you need to read every article on this website and memorize every cool line or example you find before you are prepared enough to get started, then you will never stop being afraid to approach women and start seeing results.
Most of what you learn will come from real life experiences, so you need to get out there and do something about it.
Not next week, not tomorrow – right now.
The best first step to take is to read “A Crash Course In Seduction” to bring your knowledge up to speed.
In the book, you’ll learn everything there is to know about seduction from A to Z.